My 18 yr old virgin daughter is dating a 31 yr. old man.ANY ADVICE!!!?

OPINIONSMy 18 yr old virgin daughter is dating a 31 yr. old man.ANY ADVICE!!!?
Whether or not you trust the man is of no consequence ... The biggest question is ... Do you trust your daughter?


She's 18 and not a child any more. Talk to her. Tell her your concerns and listen to what she has to say.My 18 yr old virgin daughter is dating a 31 yr. old man.ANY ADVICE!!!?
Are you sure she is still a virgin? She is 18 now, so basically it is none of your business. Sadly!
uhh, its not illegal but incredibly discusting. talk to her. maybe shes doing it for attention or not to be a veigin anymore. have u met this guy, does he seem sketchy?
just tell her that you support her. The only thing that you can do is allow her to make her own mistakes. Maybe you shoul meet this guy that she is dating and see what he is all about. and if you think that he is no good then tell her how you feel.
back off! It sounds strange but it's the best thing you can do. The more she knows you hate the relationship- the more she will like him. If you just back off, things will dissolve in time.





God Bless=)
She may not be a virgin anymore.
Hope he's told her about the wife and kids back in New Mexico.
find somebody your own age
Hope you raised her right.





Either that or beat that guy up in a parking lot.
Ask her when she thinks she'll be ready to move out of your domain - and into her own . . . regardless of the guy, or his age . . . if you have a problem with her choice of friends, it's probably time for her to be on her own . . . it might save your own relationship with her.
Not a good thing, but all you can do is be there for her.





When I was 20 I got really screwed over by a 34 year old. No pun intended. Unless your daughter is amazing mature, this guy is trouble.
well i can give you some advice... i am 20 years old my boyfriend that i live with and love whole heartedly is 32 soon to be 33... my parents and entire family absolutely adore him... so give the guy a fighting chance dont just disapprove because of age.. he may be a really really great guy
It was indeed a sad day when I found my oldest daughter was no longer virgin, you'll get over it in time. If her man is not a bum, there's really nothing you can say to her that won't cause stress in your father-daughter relationship.


I would make a point of thouroughly checking this guy out. Sit down with him and have a man to man dicussion and among other things, ask him what are his intentions toward your daughter.
r u sure she's a virgin and ur just gonna hav to try to let them do it chances are it won't work out
31??? She's not a virgin fool! Make sure you get her on the pill!
Talk to the 31 YO guy and kick his ***.
get her on birth control. she's 18, beyond that, there's not much to do. she's an adult, as much as you don't want to hear that, I'm sure. I dated a 34 year old at her age and wouldn't listen to a thing my parents said. I grew out of it pretty quickly though. Hopefully your daughter will too.
well she is legally old enough to decide.





That's pretty vague description unless the only thing you care about is age. What's more important is the guy's quality.


She's not going to be a virgin forever either.





If you go after her like a madman, she will run from you. You should be the dude she trusts! Warn her, but you can't force her, or it will eventually equal trouble and heartache for you.





She's old enough to go to college, live on her own, join the military, smoke, but not old enough to drink yet.





I think if you brought her up well, trust her, but you stil have a right to tell her how you feel and be somewhat protective. Just don't hold her too tight like a handful of sand, or she'll slip away.





Sorry she didn't find someone her age, and I agree, sometimes a guy in his 30's should date someone closer to his age.





But we don't know the entire pic here. Most guys her age are way more immature (unusually) and would screw her and leave her). This guy may be more mature and sincere.





Pray. Keep an open conversation with her without making her feel too policed or judged. Teens are sensitive and can feel this!
Mmmm - have been in the position ! ... as the 31 yr old !


I think you need to find out [ and not from your daughter !] as much as you can about his past.


If he is a genuine guy, not a huge past of wives/girlfriends, is sensible and has a steady job, - he may be fine for her -


I was mid 20's before I dated, prior to that was shy, involved with sport etc, and have always got on well with those a fair bit younger than me.


Of course if they guy has a bad track record, then get you biggest, bestest, meanest male friend to go have a word!
Odds are Hun that she isn't a virgin. I'm not saying that she is out having sex but I was 19-20 and I was dating a 29 year old and trust me he was all about sex. My dad wasn't to happy about me being with him not that he was a bad guy and he didn't like him but the fact that he was nearly his age and you know how most people are some kind of sex is defiantly involved.
Since she is 18 there is probably not a whole lot you can do about it.





I will tell you this, I have a friend who was courted by a man about the age of your daughter's boyfriend. They now are in their 70's and late 80's. And still going strong.
I don't think that she is a virgin anymore
Stop posting stupid questions and find a hobby?
only she knows she if she is a virgin or not. and why would a 31 year old man want to date a girl who is much younger and knows she is a virgin unless he cant find anyone his own age?
invest in pampers. Buy baby clothes.
Shoot him,,,,get her on birth control now. teach her the best you can inforrm her and thats all you can do.
The only thing you can do is pray and be supportive to her. Chances are that hes not looking for a good relationship. You could forbid him from coming over, but then chances are that he will find other places for them to go. I would say continue to listen and voice your opinion. Let her know that you are there for her. Since she is legal, there isnt too much that you can do. You want to be careful b/c you dont want her running to him. Just take things one day at a time and pray you raised her right.
Nothing you can do about it, she's a legal adult. Just be there to help mend her broken heart when things don't work out. And... hope she doesn't end up pregnant.
gross...One of my friends in 19 though and she's dating a 28 year old, which is sort of close. Uhm, we've really just come to accept it, he's a nice guy. Do you ever talk to him, or...see him? If not I'd have a chat with her.
I wouldn't worry about it. Young girls will sometimes think older guys are hott and will want a more muture guy. She may grow out of it, she may not. If he really loves her and she loves him then you should be happy for her and surport her decision.





Good luck :-)
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