I am with a younger guy, and he totally Controls this relationship ! it makes me feel kinda crazy, because I'm the older woman. and he should be chasing after me !
Instead, I'm the one waiting for the phone to ring, and losing sleep. He visits me on his schedule. and basically dictates when we spend time together, and how much time. He controls every aspect of our relationship.
In the beginning of course, he chased after me, and sang to my music, but now tables have turned.
So tell me what I should do..?? I need step by step instructions. should I ignore his calls, start an argument and avoid him for a few days ? what will work ? I dont want to break up, because I love him, but I feel like I'm getting taken for granted.
Please no sarcastic remarks or nasty advice...I'm looking for some realistic answers to the question....thanksHow do I Take Back Control of my Relationship with a younger man.. ?? Adult Advice please?
It's like you walked right into my life. I realized this was going on with my young friend too. So I got him to call me and now I am about to ignore his *** and turn the tables.
I got satisfaction from the fact that he called. I acted all nonchalant.
Now he is going to be like, ';I am loosing my grip and need to start chasing her like crazy'; or ';Here's my chance to bail out of this *****';.
Either way control will be mine again. I only have to remember not to let my life revolve around his again and things will stay cool.How do I Take Back Control of my Relationship with a younger man.. ?? Adult Advice please?
its wrong that he treats you this way but it's also wrong that you think it should be the other way around and that he should be treated that way by you just because your older if you belive that any one party should be in ';controle'; of a relationship then you have major issues that you need to work out befor you get in to one
you already know!
take a step back! don't be so available to him.
don't just want him to chase you make him chase you.
and make sure you look hot when you do it!!!!!!
It may be because he has a more dominant personality, which doesn't have anything to do with the age. It comes from hierarchialogical structure of social groups a scientific direction called ethology deals with that.
Also, it fits classic female-male interest curves. According to that hypothesis males tend to be more interested in the beginning of the relationship, while females interest raises with the time. So it may indicate that his interest is somewhat downward
Realistically, he must be significantly younger for you to mention this. If this is true, then he probably isn't as mature as you. That being said, things are going to be pretty hard.
Tell him you don't feel respected, and that you feel hurt. He probably feels really good about himself right now, because he's with an older woman. Maybe he needs to come back down to earth for a bit.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
What kind of positive advice would you give to a young man in this situation?
A young man got caught cheating on his fiance with another woman.
The woman is possibly pregnant (she won't tell him). She wants to be with him.
His fiance may be pregnant also. She also wants to be with him - and he is truely in love with her.
He wants to stay with his fiance...and work things out...but is now CONFUSED on what he wants to do AND WHO HE WANTS to be with.
I know that he put himself in this situation - the fiance did NOT know about the woman but the woman KNEW about his fiance.
What positive advice would you give to the young man?
I have told him that I would pray about.What kind of positive advice would you give to a young man in this situation?
Wow, what a difficult situation. Obviously he was confused to begin with. praying is a good idea, but sometimes the Lord wants us to figure out the right answer then ask for a confirmation of what we have decided.
He needs to think about why he cheated on his love to begin with and what he was hoping to accomplish by doing that.What kind of positive advice would you give to a young man in this situation?
to keep his ______ in his pants
He should be with the one that he truly loves.if he is confused then he should take sometime away from both of them to sort out his feelings.he is lucky his fiance still wants him back because i wouldn't.and yes definitely pray.
The woman is possibly pregnant (she won't tell him). She wants to be with him.
His fiance may be pregnant also. She also wants to be with him - and he is truely in love with her.
He wants to stay with his fiance...and work things out...but is now CONFUSED on what he wants to do AND WHO HE WANTS to be with.
I know that he put himself in this situation - the fiance did NOT know about the woman but the woman KNEW about his fiance.
What positive advice would you give to the young man?
I have told him that I would pray about.What kind of positive advice would you give to a young man in this situation?
Wow, what a difficult situation. Obviously he was confused to begin with. praying is a good idea, but sometimes the Lord wants us to figure out the right answer then ask for a confirmation of what we have decided.
He needs to think about why he cheated on his love to begin with and what he was hoping to accomplish by doing that.What kind of positive advice would you give to a young man in this situation?
to keep his ______ in his pants
He should be with the one that he truly loves.if he is confused then he should take sometime away from both of them to sort out his feelings.he is lucky his fiance still wants him back because i wouldn't.and yes definitely pray.
What kind of positive advice would you give to a young man in this situation?
A young man got caught cheating on his fiance with another woman.
The woman is possibly pregnant (she won't tell him). She wants to be with him.
His fiance may be pregnant also. She also wants to be with him - and he is truely in love with her.
He wants to stay with his fiance...and work things out...but is now CONFUSED on what he wants to do AND WHO HE WANTS to be with.
I know that he put himself in this situation - the fiance did NOT know about the woman but the woman KNEW about his fiance.
What positive advice would you give to the young man?
I have told him that I would pray about.What kind of positive advice would you give to a young man in this situation?
Wow, what a difficult situation. Obviously he was confused to begin with. praying is a good idea, but sometimes the Lord wants us to figure out the right answer then ask for a confirmation of what we have decided.
He needs to think about why he cheated on his love to begin with and what he was hoping to accomplish by doing that.What kind of positive advice would you give to a young man in this situation?
to keep his ______ in his pants
He should be with the one that he truly loves.if he is confused then he should take sometime away from both of them to sort out his feelings.he is lucky his fiance still wants him back because i wouldn't.and yes definitely pray.dermatologist
The woman is possibly pregnant (she won't tell him). She wants to be with him.
His fiance may be pregnant also. She also wants to be with him - and he is truely in love with her.
He wants to stay with his fiance...and work things out...but is now CONFUSED on what he wants to do AND WHO HE WANTS to be with.
I know that he put himself in this situation - the fiance did NOT know about the woman but the woman KNEW about his fiance.
What positive advice would you give to the young man?
I have told him that I would pray about.What kind of positive advice would you give to a young man in this situation?
Wow, what a difficult situation. Obviously he was confused to begin with. praying is a good idea, but sometimes the Lord wants us to figure out the right answer then ask for a confirmation of what we have decided.
He needs to think about why he cheated on his love to begin with and what he was hoping to accomplish by doing that.What kind of positive advice would you give to a young man in this situation?
to keep his ______ in his pants
He should be with the one that he truly loves.if he is confused then he should take sometime away from both of them to sort out his feelings.he is lucky his fiance still wants him back because i wouldn't.and yes definitely pray.
My son is a wimp. How can I make him a real man? Need advice very badly. Please help.?
My son is 18 years old and a serious puss cake. He just sits around all day high out of his mind, raiding my fridge and watching porn (Know it's porn because me and his mother can hear it.) He has zero muscle mass and/hence no girlfriend. To add insult to injury I found out from my daughter that he slept with a prostitute on a road trip to montreal but unfortunately this did not kick start him into gear. I would be shocked if he has ever gotten action he has not paid for. Looking for advice from other dads who have dealt with/ have experience with this type of thing.My son is a wimp. How can I make him a real man? Need advice very badly. Please help.?
Kick him in his nuts as hard as you can. This might make his balls drop. Good Luck!My son is a wimp. How can I make him a real man? Need advice very badly. Please help.?
1)Tell him now that he's 18 He HAS to get a job,and start paying rent, (Decide a reasonable amount maybe 300 a month) for every month that he doesn't have a job you will write down no rent payment .
2. Tell him that there are no drugs allowed in your house if he brings drugs in you will call the police,and have him arrested. (Just because he is your son doesn't mean he should get away with something illegal)
3. Tell him if the two above things aren't met you will sign his *** up for the Marines .
Simple, take his lazy *** down to the Army recruiting station and sign him the hell up. Then drag all of his **** outside and change the locks on the doors. That's what my dad did and I love him for it.
he is what you raised him to be ................
a lazy pot head that doesn't work and doesn't pay rent. did he even pay for his own porn or did you pay for it on your cable? if you heard it why didn't you make him turn it off?
tell him he is a puss cake and to grow up and see what he says. I agree he should join the army. That'll really get to him
Kick him in his nuts as hard as you can. This might make his balls drop. Good Luck!My son is a wimp. How can I make him a real man? Need advice very badly. Please help.?
1)Tell him now that he's 18 He HAS to get a job,and start paying rent, (Decide a reasonable amount maybe 300 a month) for every month that he doesn't have a job you will write down no rent payment .
2. Tell him that there are no drugs allowed in your house if he brings drugs in you will call the police,and have him arrested. (Just because he is your son doesn't mean he should get away with something illegal)
3. Tell him if the two above things aren't met you will sign his *** up for the Marines .
Simple, take his lazy *** down to the Army recruiting station and sign him the hell up. Then drag all of his **** outside and change the locks on the doors. That's what my dad did and I love him for it.
he is what you raised him to be ................
a lazy pot head that doesn't work and doesn't pay rent. did he even pay for his own porn or did you pay for it on your cable? if you heard it why didn't you make him turn it off?
tell him he is a puss cake and to grow up and see what he says. I agree he should join the army. That'll really get to him
Advice for Aries girl wanting a Pisces man.?
My good friend is an Aries and she's dating the notoriously elusive pisces man. I'm a pisces woman, so she asked me. What should I tell this Aries about a Pisces man? Thanks!Advice for Aries girl wanting a Pisces man.?
my horse likes to lick everything.Advice for Aries girl wanting a Pisces man.?
ARIES-PISCES : These are strange bedfellows. They admire, love and sometimes, hate each other. Piscean the dreamer, sees the fulfillment of his/her desires in an Aries-born. Pisces will always try to calm down the fiery temperament of Aries, and will not always succeed. Aries loves the sense of belongings towards a Piscean. Though sometimes Aries could be rough and cruel towards their Piscean mate.
What it's Like to Date a Pisces Man:
Pisces man is is the ultimate romantic, the sensitive man who feels with a woman. Pisces male is the ideal zodiac sign for the woman who complains that men are not sensitive enough, this man is. However, he has such an ideal of romance that is unrealistic and will fall out of love when he realizes that there is no such thing as the perfect woman. This man lives in the world of dreams and he needs a woman to keep him grounded. He always seems to chose the wrong woman, or a woman he can't have like a married woman that way there is no worry about becoming emotionally attached. He needs a woman who can dominate him, but very subtly. She has to be able to help him steer clear of bad habits and bad thoughts. Pisces man needs sensitivity, generosity and compassion, nurture him and he will nurture you back. A fulfilling emotional relationship for the strong yet sensitive woman.
How to Attract Pisces:
talk about spirituality, the occult, astrology, anything that is out of reach of the real world. They will easily get lost in a good conversation. Although they are attracted to people with severe problems who desperately need help, this actually does more harm them good. Even though Pisces will offer to make everything right, do not allow them to take on all your problems because they will lose their identity in your situation. They need a strong positive partner to make them strong. Pisces like adventure, new situation and social events and will be up to doing almost anything that you suggest. Make them laugh, they are usually melancholy and will be impressed if someone has the ability to make them laugh. They are not very conservative people so do not be afraid to talk about unconventional or strange things and tell them odd jokes, they will be impressed by that. They are suckers for flattery give them compliments and tell them in a roundabout way that you admire them. Be sensitive, generous and gentle, make them feel comfortable with you and make them feel good about themselves and all will be smooth sailing!
DK has written a load of rubbish. Pisces men do not conform to stereotypes. There are lots of different characters. Your friend is going to have to find out the human way, by interacting, not by consulting a dead astrologist.
wat they said about how to impress pisces is true . but pisces could loose interest jus as fast as he gains it for any reason.
as a friend they are good cause i have 80% Pisces friends
thats awesome to know im also pisces
thanks for the info guy...and about ur Q
ha-hope 1 of them helped u..lol
my horse likes to lick everything.Advice for Aries girl wanting a Pisces man.?
ARIES-PISCES : These are strange bedfellows. They admire, love and sometimes, hate each other. Piscean the dreamer, sees the fulfillment of his/her desires in an Aries-born. Pisces will always try to calm down the fiery temperament of Aries, and will not always succeed. Aries loves the sense of belongings towards a Piscean. Though sometimes Aries could be rough and cruel towards their Piscean mate.
What it's Like to Date a Pisces Man:
Pisces man is is the ultimate romantic, the sensitive man who feels with a woman. Pisces male is the ideal zodiac sign for the woman who complains that men are not sensitive enough, this man is. However, he has such an ideal of romance that is unrealistic and will fall out of love when he realizes that there is no such thing as the perfect woman. This man lives in the world of dreams and he needs a woman to keep him grounded. He always seems to chose the wrong woman, or a woman he can't have like a married woman that way there is no worry about becoming emotionally attached. He needs a woman who can dominate him, but very subtly. She has to be able to help him steer clear of bad habits and bad thoughts. Pisces man needs sensitivity, generosity and compassion, nurture him and he will nurture you back. A fulfilling emotional relationship for the strong yet sensitive woman.
How to Attract Pisces:
talk about spirituality, the occult, astrology, anything that is out of reach of the real world. They will easily get lost in a good conversation. Although they are attracted to people with severe problems who desperately need help, this actually does more harm them good. Even though Pisces will offer to make everything right, do not allow them to take on all your problems because they will lose their identity in your situation. They need a strong positive partner to make them strong. Pisces like adventure, new situation and social events and will be up to doing almost anything that you suggest. Make them laugh, they are usually melancholy and will be impressed if someone has the ability to make them laugh. They are not very conservative people so do not be afraid to talk about unconventional or strange things and tell them odd jokes, they will be impressed by that. They are suckers for flattery give them compliments and tell them in a roundabout way that you admire them. Be sensitive, generous and gentle, make them feel comfortable with you and make them feel good about themselves and all will be smooth sailing!
DK has written a load of rubbish. Pisces men do not conform to stereotypes. There are lots of different characters. Your friend is going to have to find out the human way, by interacting, not by consulting a dead astrologist.
wat they said about how to impress pisces is true . but pisces could loose interest jus as fast as he gains it for any reason.
as a friend they are good cause i have 80% Pisces friends
thats awesome to know im also pisces
thanks for the info guy...and about ur Q
ha-hope 1 of them helped u..lol
As an older experienced adult what kind of advice would you give a young man in his early 20's?
Start saving $$$ now... it sure adds up fast .As an older experienced adult what kind of advice would you give a young man in his early 20's?
advice for what?????
advice for what?????
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I want to end a long term relationship with a controlling man, any advice?
we've been together for three years, engaged for one but i don't want to get married now. he keeps pressing me to elope to vegas. we don't live together. i love him but i just can't marry him and i think it's only fair to him that i end the relationship. every time i try to talk about it he just insists it's pre-wedding jitters and says if we just did it everything would work out. i know it's not true though, because he gets more controlling everyday. is there some way i can make him not want me anymore?I want to end a long term relationship with a controlling man, any advice?
You got some excellent advice. Good thing you're not living together, whew! I WAS, and that made getting away more difficult. He is obviously not listening to a word you say. Make sure you take your stuff back and refuse to see him again. Leave him a letter outlining everything. Make a copy for yourself. Refuse to accept his phone calls, block his emails. Change your telephone number to an unlisted one. If he stalks you (and he is likely to do that) then you may need to ask the police to pay him a visit. You may perhaps also need get a restraining order against him.
Good luck and GO!!!I want to end a long term relationship with a controlling man, any advice?
I agree with Kessie. It's not about his feelings, especially when he has no regard for yours. If he keeps insisting that you have pre-wedding jitters, you have to be stronger and very firm when you tell him that he's wrong. Look him right in the eye and say it with conviction. Eventually, he'll realize that he's wasting his time trying to convince you otherwise and he'll back off.
I agree with Kessie, don't attempt to make him not want you. You need to be clear with him that you need this relationship to end.
i took the time to read your other posts and i have to agree, he is too controlling.
unfortunately the harder you resist the harder he will try. you just need to be prepared for whatever comes and stand up to him unwaiveringly. tell him it's over and make it clear to him that he can't show up at your work or home unnanounced and don't take his calls. if he persists, get a lawyer. keep a camera with you and use it. document everything in case you need to seek an order of protection.
This guy is using your good nature to control you but if you show him that you refuse to be controlled then that will soon put him off. You don't owe this guy anything except to tell him straight that you don't want him anymore and stick to your decision. The worst thing you could do would be to marry this guy just to please him. Good luck.
What are we supposed to tell you? I will give you a sample script and you can modify it for your situation.
';I don't want to marry you. I'll never marry you. If we do get married, I'll just divorce you and take half of your stuff. I'd cheat on you too. You are too controlling, and that makes you seem insecure. Actually, it reveals your genuine insecurity. I still wish you the best, but I'm not attracted to you any more. You need to move on. I don't ever want to see you again.';
YOU MUST BE BLUNT WITH THIS MAN. This dude is deeply insecure - that is the only reason he is so controlling. If you give him the slightest glimmer of false hope, he is likely to latch on and stalk you.
You may want to move all of your stuff away ahead of time, and get a bigger, tougher guy to help you so as to prevent trouble. If he acts up, say ';You get one warning before I call the police';. If you explain the situation to a police officer he may stand by while you move your stuff out.
I am not suggesting you do anything ';official'; against this guy, but just have a safety net. Controlling men are dangerous when they feel they are losing control.
A user named ';johnny jello dick'; posted an identical question - about a woman. Did you post first or did he?
Good luck to you - I'd suggest the same advice to you that I wrote on his post:
Tell him clearly and quickly that you don't want to get married. Don't tell him';I love you but...'; That will just make her hold on. Then leave. Take a few sick days at work if you can and get out of the city/state/country for awhile. Out of sight makes out of mind easier. Good luck!
Follow at your own risk: stop looking pretty by burping loud, farting, flicking bugers, and scratching your crack. Assuming you have a lot of friends and family call them over and let them in. Take everyone to a place in public including your bf and break up. I dought if he will fly off the handle because there would be more of your people to stop him versus him taking on everybody .
drop his a**
Two ways, either completely balk every time he tries to control you or sit him down and be honest with him.
Tell him you no longer feel this is the right decision and you're breaking off the engagement, tell him there's nothing he can say or do to change your mind. Tell him the two of you are over and that you hope he finds the perfect woman to make him happy, then move on.
';Just Do It';, underrated catch phrase. Dont wait for his permission. You owe him nothing but honesty. It's so wonderful for you that you realize this before you get married. Please understand that the guilt will subside. Guilt is not the binding factor to a happy marriage. You owe it to YOURSELF to marry for the right reasons. CLEAN BREAK. Do not leave anything open for discussion. ..oh and it helps so much that you dont live together. You've got your head on straight girl. Take back control. GOOD LUCK. You can do this. Let him find a weaker woman that NEEDS this type of control. GOOD LUCK HONEY!!!!
Don't worry about what he wants, focus on what you need. Marrying him wouldn't be doing him any favors either so be direct, consistent, and tell him the truth. Don't be ambivalent, and don't leave any doors open. Be brave.
Follow cliffies advice - he is as sound as a pound.
it will only get worse when you marry him...
just stop seeing him...I would not suggest getting a new boyfriend because that just opens up a whole new can of worms...Cliffe up there is spot on...
I agree with the others that you need to be consistent and direct. You also need to act quickly. Every day that goes by makes it more difficult to leave and more painful once you do leave. Up to this point it sounds like you've been very passive about the whole thing and you might try being more assertive. If you need support or if you're fearful of his response, ask a friend or family member to be there. He may feel embarrassed about that but, in the long run, it will be better for both of you.
Something about your boyfriend reminds me of Spencer from The Hills. Maybe it's the fact that they're both controlling, possessive dipwads. Just tell him flat out that it's over. Don't wait for him to try to dump you.
Oh Boo Hoo! Your inability to make a decision on your own would be enough to make me want to leave.
Get some ovaries woman! Stop with the ';but I love him'; routine. I don't believe you do. He was convenient for the past three years.
But does it really matter? You will probably look for the same type of man the next time.
Just tell him straight out and no beating about the bush.
You got some excellent advice. Good thing you're not living together, whew! I WAS, and that made getting away more difficult. He is obviously not listening to a word you say. Make sure you take your stuff back and refuse to see him again. Leave him a letter outlining everything. Make a copy for yourself. Refuse to accept his phone calls, block his emails. Change your telephone number to an unlisted one. If he stalks you (and he is likely to do that) then you may need to ask the police to pay him a visit. You may perhaps also need get a restraining order against him.
Good luck and GO!!!I want to end a long term relationship with a controlling man, any advice?
I agree with Kessie. It's not about his feelings, especially when he has no regard for yours. If he keeps insisting that you have pre-wedding jitters, you have to be stronger and very firm when you tell him that he's wrong. Look him right in the eye and say it with conviction. Eventually, he'll realize that he's wasting his time trying to convince you otherwise and he'll back off.
I agree with Kessie, don't attempt to make him not want you. You need to be clear with him that you need this relationship to end.
i took the time to read your other posts and i have to agree, he is too controlling.
unfortunately the harder you resist the harder he will try. you just need to be prepared for whatever comes and stand up to him unwaiveringly. tell him it's over and make it clear to him that he can't show up at your work or home unnanounced and don't take his calls. if he persists, get a lawyer. keep a camera with you and use it. document everything in case you need to seek an order of protection.
This guy is using your good nature to control you but if you show him that you refuse to be controlled then that will soon put him off. You don't owe this guy anything except to tell him straight that you don't want him anymore and stick to your decision. The worst thing you could do would be to marry this guy just to please him. Good luck.
What are we supposed to tell you? I will give you a sample script and you can modify it for your situation.
';I don't want to marry you. I'll never marry you. If we do get married, I'll just divorce you and take half of your stuff. I'd cheat on you too. You are too controlling, and that makes you seem insecure. Actually, it reveals your genuine insecurity. I still wish you the best, but I'm not attracted to you any more. You need to move on. I don't ever want to see you again.';
YOU MUST BE BLUNT WITH THIS MAN. This dude is deeply insecure - that is the only reason he is so controlling. If you give him the slightest glimmer of false hope, he is likely to latch on and stalk you.
You may want to move all of your stuff away ahead of time, and get a bigger, tougher guy to help you so as to prevent trouble. If he acts up, say ';You get one warning before I call the police';. If you explain the situation to a police officer he may stand by while you move your stuff out.
I am not suggesting you do anything ';official'; against this guy, but just have a safety net. Controlling men are dangerous when they feel they are losing control.
A user named ';johnny jello dick'; posted an identical question - about a woman. Did you post first or did he?
Good luck to you - I'd suggest the same advice to you that I wrote on his post:
Tell him clearly and quickly that you don't want to get married. Don't tell him';I love you but...'; That will just make her hold on. Then leave. Take a few sick days at work if you can and get out of the city/state/country for awhile. Out of sight makes out of mind easier. Good luck!
Follow at your own risk: stop looking pretty by burping loud, farting, flicking bugers, and scratching your crack. Assuming you have a lot of friends and family call them over and let them in. Take everyone to a place in public including your bf and break up. I dought if he will fly off the handle because there would be more of your people to stop him versus him taking on everybody .
drop his a**
Two ways, either completely balk every time he tries to control you or sit him down and be honest with him.
Tell him you no longer feel this is the right decision and you're breaking off the engagement, tell him there's nothing he can say or do to change your mind. Tell him the two of you are over and that you hope he finds the perfect woman to make him happy, then move on.
';Just Do It';, underrated catch phrase. Dont wait for his permission. You owe him nothing but honesty. It's so wonderful for you that you realize this before you get married. Please understand that the guilt will subside. Guilt is not the binding factor to a happy marriage. You owe it to YOURSELF to marry for the right reasons. CLEAN BREAK. Do not leave anything open for discussion. ..oh and it helps so much that you dont live together. You've got your head on straight girl. Take back control. GOOD LUCK. You can do this. Let him find a weaker woman that NEEDS this type of control. GOOD LUCK HONEY!!!!
Don't worry about what he wants, focus on what you need. Marrying him wouldn't be doing him any favors either so be direct, consistent, and tell him the truth. Don't be ambivalent, and don't leave any doors open. Be brave.
Follow cliffies advice - he is as sound as a pound.
it will only get worse when you marry him...
just stop seeing him...I would not suggest getting a new boyfriend because that just opens up a whole new can of worms...Cliffe up there is spot on...
I agree with the others that you need to be consistent and direct. You also need to act quickly. Every day that goes by makes it more difficult to leave and more painful once you do leave. Up to this point it sounds like you've been very passive about the whole thing and you might try being more assertive. If you need support or if you're fearful of his response, ask a friend or family member to be there. He may feel embarrassed about that but, in the long run, it will be better for both of you.
Something about your boyfriend reminds me of Spencer from The Hills. Maybe it's the fact that they're both controlling, possessive dipwads. Just tell him flat out that it's over. Don't wait for him to try to dump you.
Oh Boo Hoo! Your inability to make a decision on your own would be enough to make me want to leave.
Get some ovaries woman! Stop with the ';but I love him'; routine. I don't believe you do. He was convenient for the past three years.
But does it really matter? You will probably look for the same type of man the next time.
Just tell him straight out and no beating about the bush.
Friendship advice between man and woman, why is she always pissed?
Hi, ive been good friends with this girl for a few years now, prob best friends. In the past she would get pissed over something trivial and would be upset for weeks/months. She would ignore every attempt to contact her, then would jsut show back up one day like nothing happened. Being a very forgiving perosn i live and let live and drop it.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago, after awhile of everything being cool, im back on ignore for doing something without her while she was away for weekend. Ive never had these kind of things happen with my male friends. Dont want this to sound bad, but is this typical behavior for women in friendships? It makes me feel like dirt, I want everything to be cool, but quite frankly im tired of being treated like trash she can bend over and pick out the can every few weeks.
How do I proceed form here, im very stressed right now and not sure how to proceed, i want to work things out but I cant get thru. Am i fighting a losing battle and just hurtn myself?Friendship advice between man and woman, why is she always pissed?
Sounds like she's struggling with some feelings for you. If so, she obviously isn't going to approach you on it so you may need to be the assertive one on that issue. If you find out where you stand you'll be in a better position to make a choice on whether to keep this yoyo going or cut it!Friendship advice between man and woman, why is she always pissed?
There might be reason for anything. Pls approach her politely and ask about her being upset. Pls tell her that you want to maintain good friendship for life long and if she had any complain let you know. Dont change your heart. Show that you have the same feelings and not changed. You will win.
i have female friends and this is not typical. yours souds like a passiveaggressive, selfish drama queen with no concern for anyone but her own feelings. does she ever show remorse for somthing SHE has done that is offensive? even if u dont ask for it?
i think the problem has gotten worse BECAUSE you are so forgiving. i am not saying it is a bad quality.i am simply saying certain types take advantage of that quality. there are women out therewho will not treat you this way, i promise
u just have to find them
kick this self-involved person to the curb
also, tell her that the healthy way to deal with anger is to talk about it and not blow ppl off and not tell them WHY you are mad.....
hate that crap...
Why are you this stressed over a friend. Yeah, all girls act like this. Haven't you figured it out yet?
there could be a few reasons.
if it were me, i'd be mad at something for a while, then when i suddenly realized how stupid it was, then i'd be embarassed how dramatic i acted, so i'll just pretend that nothing ever happened. but that's just me.
but most of the time, girls accidentally make more drama then there should be. if something happens, they'll talk to their friends about it (which'll get them even more worked up about the situation), so they'll just ignore you. then once they get over it, it's just akward to bring up the drama and ';share feelings';, so we'll just act like nothing's wrong.
i'm sorry we're so weird like this :] but goodluck.
she is a woman. they are all that wya
Not all women are like that. Just like men, some of us are difficult to live with and some are easy to live with. Since you are best friends, why dont you ask to just tell you what pissed her off, you can try to explain why you did what you did, and then discuss it. Tell her that silent treatment and ignoring you will not solve the problem. Tell her that it makes you sad, you not being friends even for a while. As for you, she is your friend, you have to accept her as she is. Try to avoid doing things that makes her angry. It is difficult but that is how sometimes a friendship is tested.
did you ever think that maybe she might like you more than just a ';friend'; as for proceeding just sit down and talk to her with no distractions around you. Make sure you make her realize how you feel. COMMUNICATION is the key with ANY relationship!
Her feelings obviously go deeper than just friendship if she is letting little things like that get to her.
Yes it's probably a very hard thing to do but maybe you could discuss it with her. My womans intuition is that she is extremely fond, attached to you and possibly even loves you!
Talk to her!
If you really don't think she has deeper feelings than she is showing on the surface then i suggest calling the friendship quits, it will be too hard on you to keep puttting up with it.
All women are not this way... but thanks for the ignorant comment gabyandbilly...
I have always had mostly guy friends and I'll tell you right now they wouldn't stand for that crap from me.
A friend is a friend is a friend is a friend and should never treat you that way.
It sounds like either she has a serious mood disorder (no kidding), is jealous because she doesn't have other friends like you do, OR she likes you. None of which gives her a free pass to be a bi***. You really should talk to her, but I would be careful how I approach this one.
Seriously, you need to tell her to stop the immature bullsh**. If she doesn't, tell her to hit the road, you don't need that constant drama and stress in your life and that's not a real friend!
p.s. Be nice and ask what's up and tell her you love her as a friend, but that the way she acts just isn't cool and you can't deal with. She'll have to grow up or walk away...
Talk to her. Tell her that you do not understand why she does this, and that it really hurts you. Tell her that if she can not talk things out with you, then maybe you are not best friends after all. If she does it again after that, do not respond to her any more. Just tell her that it is too much drama.
easy,just leave her and do like the way she done to you.how do she feel like that huh!! correction-not every women like that. friends like that you choose is just like childish.throw her back to the future when she's in 5 years old.dermatologist
Fast forward to a few weeks ago, after awhile of everything being cool, im back on ignore for doing something without her while she was away for weekend. Ive never had these kind of things happen with my male friends. Dont want this to sound bad, but is this typical behavior for women in friendships? It makes me feel like dirt, I want everything to be cool, but quite frankly im tired of being treated like trash she can bend over and pick out the can every few weeks.
How do I proceed form here, im very stressed right now and not sure how to proceed, i want to work things out but I cant get thru. Am i fighting a losing battle and just hurtn myself?Friendship advice between man and woman, why is she always pissed?
Sounds like she's struggling with some feelings for you. If so, she obviously isn't going to approach you on it so you may need to be the assertive one on that issue. If you find out where you stand you'll be in a better position to make a choice on whether to keep this yoyo going or cut it!Friendship advice between man and woman, why is she always pissed?
There might be reason for anything. Pls approach her politely and ask about her being upset. Pls tell her that you want to maintain good friendship for life long and if she had any complain let you know. Dont change your heart. Show that you have the same feelings and not changed. You will win.
i have female friends and this is not typical. yours souds like a passiveaggressive, selfish drama queen with no concern for anyone but her own feelings. does she ever show remorse for somthing SHE has done that is offensive? even if u dont ask for it?
i think the problem has gotten worse BECAUSE you are so forgiving. i am not saying it is a bad quality.i am simply saying certain types take advantage of that quality. there are women out therewho will not treat you this way, i promise
u just have to find them
kick this self-involved person to the curb
also, tell her that the healthy way to deal with anger is to talk about it and not blow ppl off and not tell them WHY you are mad.....
hate that crap...
Why are you this stressed over a friend. Yeah, all girls act like this. Haven't you figured it out yet?
there could be a few reasons.
if it were me, i'd be mad at something for a while, then when i suddenly realized how stupid it was, then i'd be embarassed how dramatic i acted, so i'll just pretend that nothing ever happened. but that's just me.
but most of the time, girls accidentally make more drama then there should be. if something happens, they'll talk to their friends about it (which'll get them even more worked up about the situation), so they'll just ignore you. then once they get over it, it's just akward to bring up the drama and ';share feelings';, so we'll just act like nothing's wrong.
i'm sorry we're so weird like this :] but goodluck.
she is a woman. they are all that wya
Not all women are like that. Just like men, some of us are difficult to live with and some are easy to live with. Since you are best friends, why dont you ask to just tell you what pissed her off, you can try to explain why you did what you did, and then discuss it. Tell her that silent treatment and ignoring you will not solve the problem. Tell her that it makes you sad, you not being friends even for a while. As for you, she is your friend, you have to accept her as she is. Try to avoid doing things that makes her angry. It is difficult but that is how sometimes a friendship is tested.
did you ever think that maybe she might like you more than just a ';friend'; as for proceeding just sit down and talk to her with no distractions around you. Make sure you make her realize how you feel. COMMUNICATION is the key with ANY relationship!
Her feelings obviously go deeper than just friendship if she is letting little things like that get to her.
Yes it's probably a very hard thing to do but maybe you could discuss it with her. My womans intuition is that she is extremely fond, attached to you and possibly even loves you!
Talk to her!
If you really don't think she has deeper feelings than she is showing on the surface then i suggest calling the friendship quits, it will be too hard on you to keep puttting up with it.
All women are not this way... but thanks for the ignorant comment gabyandbilly...
I have always had mostly guy friends and I'll tell you right now they wouldn't stand for that crap from me.
A friend is a friend is a friend is a friend and should never treat you that way.
It sounds like either she has a serious mood disorder (no kidding), is jealous because she doesn't have other friends like you do, OR she likes you. None of which gives her a free pass to be a bi***. You really should talk to her, but I would be careful how I approach this one.
Seriously, you need to tell her to stop the immature bullsh**. If she doesn't, tell her to hit the road, you don't need that constant drama and stress in your life and that's not a real friend!
p.s. Be nice and ask what's up and tell her you love her as a friend, but that the way she acts just isn't cool and you can't deal with. She'll have to grow up or walk away...
Talk to her. Tell her that you do not understand why she does this, and that it really hurts you. Tell her that if she can not talk things out with you, then maybe you are not best friends after all. If she does it again after that, do not respond to her any more. Just tell her that it is too much drama.
easy,just leave her and do like the way she done to you.how do she feel like that huh!! correction-not every women like that. friends like that you choose is just like childish.throw her back to the future when she's in 5 years old.
I'm looking for title/artist of a song from late 80's/early 90's that is a man speaking/giving advice.
The song is all words--a man giving advice on living to younger person/teenager.I'm looking for title/artist of a song from late 80's/early 90's that is a man speaking/giving advice.
It's the Class of '99 Song, otherwise known as ';Wear Sunscreen';
here is the story and the lyrics courtesy of http://jetzt.sueddeutsche.de/texte/anzei鈥?/a>
The Sunscreen Song 鈥?The Class of 鈥?9
The Story
One of my favorite songs, is commonly referred to as ';The Sunscreen Song';. It is what sounds like a commencement speech, set to music. In fact it is not a real commencement speech (though it should be!), but rather a column that appeared in the Chicago Tribune on June 1, 1997 entitled ';ADVICE, LIKE YOUTH, PROBABLY JUST WASTED ON THE YOUNG'; by staff writer Mary Schmich.
The email caught the attention of Australian film director Baz Luhrmann, who is best known for two films 鈥?';Strictly Ballroom,'; about competitive dancing, and a 1996 remake of ';Romeo and Juliet,'; starring Leonardo DiCaprio and Claire Danes.
Luhrmann eventually tracked the source of the speech to Schmich, and contacted Chicago Tribune management to buy the rights to the words to turn it into a song. He took Quindon Tarver's ';Everybody's Free (to Feel Good)'; song, remixed it, and hired Sydney actor Lee Perry to read Schmich's ';speech';. The end result became the seven-minute long ';Sunscreen Song';.
Wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Sing.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Floss.
Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.
Stretch.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You'll miss them when they're gone.
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.
Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.
Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents. You never know when they'll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.
Don't mess too much with your hair or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.I'm looking for title/artist of a song from late 80's/early 90's that is a man speaking/giving advice.
There's a late 90's song called ';Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen)'; by Baz Lurhman, a song of advice. Most of it lyrics were all narration, except for the female voice who's doing the refrain or the chorus, try it.
The song I'm thinking of is Cat Stevens, 'father and son'. Here are the lyrics:
Father
It's not time to make a change,
Just relax, take it easy.
You're still young, that's your fault,
There's so much you have to know.
Find a girl, settle down,
If you want you can marry.
Look at me, I am old, but I'm happy.
I was once like you are now, and I know that it's not easy,
To be calm when you've found something going on.
But take your time, think a lot,
Why, think of everything you've got.
For you will still be here tomorrow, but your dreams may not.
Son
How can I try to explain, when I do he turns away again.
It's always been the same, same old story.
From the moment I could talk I was ordered to listen.
Now there's a way and I know that I have to go away.
I know I have to go.
Father
It's not time to make a change,
Just sit down, take it slowly.
You're still young, that's your fault,
There's so much you have to go through.
Find a girl, settle down,
if you want you can marry.
Look at me, I am old, but I'm happy.
Son
All the times that I cried, keeping all the things I knew inside,
It's hard, but it's harder to ignore it.
If they were right, I'd agree, but it's them you know not me.
Now there's a way and I know that I have to go away.
I know I have to go.
You might be thinking of the song ';simple man'; by lynard skynard. It's way older than the late 80's but thats the only thing that came to mind.
I'm the SCATMAN, bada be bot bot boduhbo!!!!!!!!!
Scatman John
or
Always Wear Sun Screen (late 90's) Baz Luhrman(spelling?)
It's the Class of '99 Song, otherwise known as ';Wear Sunscreen';
here is the story and the lyrics courtesy of http://jetzt.sueddeutsche.de/texte/anzei鈥?/a>
The Sunscreen Song 鈥?The Class of 鈥?9
The Story
One of my favorite songs, is commonly referred to as ';The Sunscreen Song';. It is what sounds like a commencement speech, set to music. In fact it is not a real commencement speech (though it should be!), but rather a column that appeared in the Chicago Tribune on June 1, 1997 entitled ';ADVICE, LIKE YOUTH, PROBABLY JUST WASTED ON THE YOUNG'; by staff writer Mary Schmich.
The email caught the attention of Australian film director Baz Luhrmann, who is best known for two films 鈥?';Strictly Ballroom,'; about competitive dancing, and a 1996 remake of ';Romeo and Juliet,'; starring Leonardo DiCaprio and Claire Danes.
Luhrmann eventually tracked the source of the speech to Schmich, and contacted Chicago Tribune management to buy the rights to the words to turn it into a song. He took Quindon Tarver's ';Everybody's Free (to Feel Good)'; song, remixed it, and hired Sydney actor Lee Perry to read Schmich's ';speech';. The end result became the seven-minute long ';Sunscreen Song';.
Wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Sing.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Floss.
Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.
Stretch.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You'll miss them when they're gone.
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.
Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.
Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents. You never know when they'll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.
Don't mess too much with your hair or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.I'm looking for title/artist of a song from late 80's/early 90's that is a man speaking/giving advice.
There's a late 90's song called ';Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen)'; by Baz Lurhman, a song of advice. Most of it lyrics were all narration, except for the female voice who's doing the refrain or the chorus, try it.
The song I'm thinking of is Cat Stevens, 'father and son'. Here are the lyrics:
Father
It's not time to make a change,
Just relax, take it easy.
You're still young, that's your fault,
There's so much you have to know.
Find a girl, settle down,
If you want you can marry.
Look at me, I am old, but I'm happy.
I was once like you are now, and I know that it's not easy,
To be calm when you've found something going on.
But take your time, think a lot,
Why, think of everything you've got.
For you will still be here tomorrow, but your dreams may not.
Son
How can I try to explain, when I do he turns away again.
It's always been the same, same old story.
From the moment I could talk I was ordered to listen.
Now there's a way and I know that I have to go away.
I know I have to go.
Father
It's not time to make a change,
Just sit down, take it slowly.
You're still young, that's your fault,
There's so much you have to go through.
Find a girl, settle down,
if you want you can marry.
Look at me, I am old, but I'm happy.
Son
All the times that I cried, keeping all the things I knew inside,
It's hard, but it's harder to ignore it.
If they were right, I'd agree, but it's them you know not me.
Now there's a way and I know that I have to go away.
I know I have to go.
You might be thinking of the song ';simple man'; by lynard skynard. It's way older than the late 80's but thats the only thing that came to mind.
I'm the SCATMAN, bada be bot bot boduhbo!!!!!!!!!
Scatman John
or
Always Wear Sun Screen (late 90's) Baz Luhrman(spelling?)
Tattoo advice along the hip for a man?
along the hip what good designs for a tattoo are good to make it look manly yet intrigin yet simpleTattoo advice along the hip for a man?
the only thing that i have seen is a guy with a gun tattoo on his side...a straight guy that is.Tattoo advice along the hip for a man?
never heard of a guyy gettin a tattoo there so i dont know rly wht to say.but um when i get mine im going to get it there %26amp;%26amp; i was thinkin a chinese symbol lk faith or strength or something like tht dont know if it helps you though. but if i saw a guy have a tattoo there im sure id remember it cause its in an unusual spot.
A great tattoo design resource is discussed below.
the only thing that i have seen is a guy with a gun tattoo on his side...a straight guy that is.Tattoo advice along the hip for a man?
never heard of a guyy gettin a tattoo there so i dont know rly wht to say.but um when i get mine im going to get it there %26amp;%26amp; i was thinkin a chinese symbol lk faith or strength or something like tht dont know if it helps you though. but if i saw a guy have a tattoo there im sure id remember it cause its in an unusual spot.
A great tattoo design resource is discussed below.
Help with getting a second date!? Need a man's advice!?
Hi, I need a man's advice badly. I am on several online dating sites, and I get a lot of attention. Without sounding superficial, I am decently cute (I'm a thin blonde girl, 30). However, after the first date, I usually never hear from these guys again. Is there a clue/action guys are looking for so they know the girl won't shoot them down for a second date? Or am I supposed to ask? I just went on a date with one I really liked- I texted him yesterday and didn't hear anything back. I really want to keep this one interested. What should be the next move? Guys if you could help me out understanding what is the best way to get and keep a guy's interest I'd be so grateful :)Help with getting a second date!? Need a man's advice!?
Watch the following movieHelp with getting a second date!? Need a man's advice!?
Be cool. Don't txt him too much. You will look desperate and guys like me don't like that. If he never contacts you ever again Get OFF THE COMPUTER. Go to the mall a meet people dont be a crab living in a shell. e social and you will find your soulmate.
Watch the following movieHelp with getting a second date!? Need a man's advice!?
Be cool. Don't txt him too much. You will look desperate and guys like me don't like that. If he never contacts you ever again Get OFF THE COMPUTER. Go to the mall a meet people dont be a crab living in a shell. e social and you will find your soulmate.
Married and may be Pregant by another man...Help? Advice?
Okay sooo...I am in a loveless marriage. Have been married for 3 yrs. Have 2 kids with my husband. I do not love him anymore. He doesn't act like he still loves me. I feel like we were kinda forced to get married too early by his mother, just b/c we had gotten pregnant. I did love him at that time, but don't think we were ready to get married (obviously) So I have been having an emotional/physical affair with a coworker for about 4 months now, and I think I may be pregnant. If you are just gonna call me a **** and a piece of trash please don't even waste ur time. I feel horrible about myself as it is. I just would like to know how in the world do i tell him? How do I tell him I want a divorce? It would not be fair to just let him go on thinking it's his baby, and also not fair to the ';father'; for him to not be able to have a relationship with his child, so just hiding it is not an option for me. I couldn't live w/ that. I still want a div. even if I am not pregnant...soo...any advice?Married and may be Pregant by another man...Help? Advice?
I don't get it....just tell him. There really is no advice for this. You know what you want to do!Married and may be Pregant by another man...Help? Advice?
getting a divorce always hurts whether you are pregnant or not
you just have to be honest and tell him that you are not happy
yes it will hurt him
but he is better off finding a woman who will be crazy about him rather than someone who is not in love with him
and is having an affair.
it's just too bad for the kids
they are the ones who suffer the most
i am very sorry for them
Just walk up to him and say, ';Honey I'm a nasty whore. I spread my legs for some other guy. Now I'm knocked up w/ his bastard.'; LOL. What a stupid whore you are. There is no excuse for cheating.
Hi Hun, this is a messy situation and while some will call you all sorts of names, it is obious that you are not happy in your relationship with your husband. First, you need to sit down with your husband and tell him that you want a devorce. Then, you want to have the baby and have his/her paternity tested so that you know for sure who the father is. At this point, you need to start picking up the pieces of your life and remember that although you may not love your husband, he is the father of your children and will be a part of you for the rest of your life. Be honest, open and try to salvage a friendship for the benefit of the children. Beyond that, you deserve to be loved and in a relationship where you feel happy and fullfilled. Never regret what you have done, but now you must clean up the mess. It will not be easy, and it will be one of the hardest things you will ever have to do. There will be no right time or place and there will be many hurt feelings, but remember, you have decided on this path and you can not truly follow it unless you come clean. Good luck hun.
I think it's a total cliche' to say your in a loveless marriage to make it sound like your cheating was warranted.
Your messed up in the head lady.
tramp whore...see, I didnt call you a **** or a piece of trash...
If he doesn't love you either then it may be a relief to find out you want a divorce. I am not so sure about telling him you are pregnant because most courts won't allow a divorce to be finalized while a woman is pregnant--no matter who fathered the child. The legal system isn't into bastardizing a baby. Both you and your husband deserve to find happiness and if you can't find it together you should both move on. Most men who stay in a bad marriage (women too) do so because of financial reasons. So make a financial plan to present to him showing just how divorce can be managed and in such a way as he won't be left holding all the debts while you get all the assets. He will be more inclined to agree to divorce if he doesn't feel he is going to get the shaft. Good luck because you are going to need it. The people on here that call you names must not live in glass houses. It is up to a much higher power then us here on earth to judge you and all theses people will probably be judged harder then you for trying to play God.
What about what you wrote? Sit him down and talk to him. Don't put the blame on anyone except yourself and own up to your actions like you did in your question. The sooner, the better too. Don't let him find out by himself and learn from what you've done so you can move on to a responsible relationship in the future.
Let me know when to tune in when you're on Maury trying to find out who your baby daddy is.
my sister had the same thing happen to her, They argued alot over stupid little things so one day when they were fighting she told him it was over and packed her things and left and avoided him as much as she could.I know it sounds bad but sometimes you do have to be dirty about things but that sounds so much better then him knowing there is another man.
I can tell you one thing, marriage considers the wife property of the husband and legally the child you carry may be your secret lover's but it is legally your husbands, he would have to sign his rights away on the child and if you are going to leave, do it before the child is born and before he get attached to he/she.
You made your bed, now you gotta sleep in it.
Just be upfront with him otherwise the situation will just get worse!
You need to fess up and tell them both you do not know who the father is. Just tell it the way it is. Dont lie. You will just humiliate him and yourself at the same time.
Then you will get the divorce you want and then be able to work, support yourself and you babies and find out the skank your screwing around with at work just wanted some free sex.
I never understood why women let themselves be used like that.
First off, Find out if your Pregnant.
If you are, tell your husband right away. He will probably want a divorce.
Third, Be ready for him to question his paternity on the other 2 kids. You cheated once and if this kid is not his, he may think the other 2 are not his either.
Fourth, If you want a divorce, get a divorce. Don't hide, lie or keep secrets on him. Don't end a relationship in a lie
As usual, its the innocent children I feel sorry for......
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I'm sure you won't have to even think about filing for a divorce, once you tell him he'll probably beat you to the punch! Just be upfront and honest. Good Luck!
Once you tell him you may be pregnant by another man, he'll offer you the divorce. You'll get what you want.
You've already just told us exactly what you plan to do, so I'm not sure what kind of advice you need. I find it amusing that you're acting so concerned about being ';fair'; to him and finding out the best way to tell him. You don't care about this man's feelings at ALL! You slept with and got pregnant by someone else! Why are you suddenly pretending that you care about your husband's feelings??
well you know what they say, you mess up you clean up
I think that once you tell him you are pregnant by another man and have been cheating, he will offer YOU a divorce, so I wouldn't worry about that.
You are weak and I'm glad you feel horrible about yourself...so you should. (but you obviously don't feel; THAT bad because if you did, you'd have finished it ...)
There is NO excuse for cheating.
If you don't love your husband, you should have left him before shagging someone else.
I can't advise you...I'd never shite on someone like that...
You should have applied for a divorce 5 months ago....
try ur luck....
I have not been in your shoes but I would just sit your husband down and tell him the truth. It is always better to tell the truth than to get caught in a lie. If you dont love him anymore and you are ready to get out of the relationship then you need to do just that, It is not fair to you him or the kids to keep on going in a loveless relationship. It is only damaging to everyone involved. Hopefully the guy that you are pregnant with is inlove with you and was not just using you for sex. Good luck and I wish you all the best
You really want the advice of someone who was in the same situation? Not a wise choice! You seem to make bad decisions often. I feel no pity for you! I do feel pity for the Innocent blessing in your tummy that you don't deserve!
You feel horrible about this...what a joke!
first find out if you really are pregnant befor you go telling the men in your life. then if you are, tell the father and see what he has to say. and tell your husband that is a possibility that the baby might not be his. i am sure he will offer you the divorce wih out a blink of an eye. if not, let him know what has been going on and that you don't love him anymore. let him know that you just don't think you can handle living in a loveless marriage anymore and that you want out.
I have not been in a similar situation but am willing to try and help without abusing you ;)
Your baby is a sign that you were not meant to get married,I would take that sign and run with it.
A loveless marriage is not fair on your husband or child.
Dont leave your husband for the other man though, leave him for the right reasons.
I am not trying to be rude but these are the sort of things that you have to contemplate before jumping in the sack with someone else.....You were woman enough to do the deed now you have to be woman enough to accept the consequences of those actions.
It might just surprise you that maybe he is sleeping with someone else also and he will just be relieved to get rid of you....Just talk to him, you never know
be up front and honest its the best thing to do I promise you will get the divorce you want for sure but maybe you guys should have at least tried to save your marriage before you went out and started screwing around? maybe counseling? looks like you have your hands full better spill the beans now before things get worse
I don't get it....just tell him. There really is no advice for this. You know what you want to do!Married and may be Pregant by another man...Help? Advice?
getting a divorce always hurts whether you are pregnant or not
you just have to be honest and tell him that you are not happy
yes it will hurt him
but he is better off finding a woman who will be crazy about him rather than someone who is not in love with him
and is having an affair.
it's just too bad for the kids
they are the ones who suffer the most
i am very sorry for them
Just walk up to him and say, ';Honey I'm a nasty whore. I spread my legs for some other guy. Now I'm knocked up w/ his bastard.'; LOL. What a stupid whore you are. There is no excuse for cheating.
Hi Hun, this is a messy situation and while some will call you all sorts of names, it is obious that you are not happy in your relationship with your husband. First, you need to sit down with your husband and tell him that you want a devorce. Then, you want to have the baby and have his/her paternity tested so that you know for sure who the father is. At this point, you need to start picking up the pieces of your life and remember that although you may not love your husband, he is the father of your children and will be a part of you for the rest of your life. Be honest, open and try to salvage a friendship for the benefit of the children. Beyond that, you deserve to be loved and in a relationship where you feel happy and fullfilled. Never regret what you have done, but now you must clean up the mess. It will not be easy, and it will be one of the hardest things you will ever have to do. There will be no right time or place and there will be many hurt feelings, but remember, you have decided on this path and you can not truly follow it unless you come clean. Good luck hun.
I think it's a total cliche' to say your in a loveless marriage to make it sound like your cheating was warranted.
Your messed up in the head lady.
tramp whore...see, I didnt call you a **** or a piece of trash...
If he doesn't love you either then it may be a relief to find out you want a divorce. I am not so sure about telling him you are pregnant because most courts won't allow a divorce to be finalized while a woman is pregnant--no matter who fathered the child. The legal system isn't into bastardizing a baby. Both you and your husband deserve to find happiness and if you can't find it together you should both move on. Most men who stay in a bad marriage (women too) do so because of financial reasons. So make a financial plan to present to him showing just how divorce can be managed and in such a way as he won't be left holding all the debts while you get all the assets. He will be more inclined to agree to divorce if he doesn't feel he is going to get the shaft. Good luck because you are going to need it. The people on here that call you names must not live in glass houses. It is up to a much higher power then us here on earth to judge you and all theses people will probably be judged harder then you for trying to play God.
What about what you wrote? Sit him down and talk to him. Don't put the blame on anyone except yourself and own up to your actions like you did in your question. The sooner, the better too. Don't let him find out by himself and learn from what you've done so you can move on to a responsible relationship in the future.
Let me know when to tune in when you're on Maury trying to find out who your baby daddy is.
my sister had the same thing happen to her, They argued alot over stupid little things so one day when they were fighting she told him it was over and packed her things and left and avoided him as much as she could.I know it sounds bad but sometimes you do have to be dirty about things but that sounds so much better then him knowing there is another man.
I can tell you one thing, marriage considers the wife property of the husband and legally the child you carry may be your secret lover's but it is legally your husbands, he would have to sign his rights away on the child and if you are going to leave, do it before the child is born and before he get attached to he/she.
You made your bed, now you gotta sleep in it.
Just be upfront with him otherwise the situation will just get worse!
You need to fess up and tell them both you do not know who the father is. Just tell it the way it is. Dont lie. You will just humiliate him and yourself at the same time.
Then you will get the divorce you want and then be able to work, support yourself and you babies and find out the skank your screwing around with at work just wanted some free sex.
I never understood why women let themselves be used like that.
First off, Find out if your Pregnant.
If you are, tell your husband right away. He will probably want a divorce.
Third, Be ready for him to question his paternity on the other 2 kids. You cheated once and if this kid is not his, he may think the other 2 are not his either.
Fourth, If you want a divorce, get a divorce. Don't hide, lie or keep secrets on him. Don't end a relationship in a lie
As usual, its the innocent children I feel sorry for......
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I'm sure you won't have to even think about filing for a divorce, once you tell him he'll probably beat you to the punch! Just be upfront and honest. Good Luck!
Once you tell him you may be pregnant by another man, he'll offer you the divorce. You'll get what you want.
You've already just told us exactly what you plan to do, so I'm not sure what kind of advice you need. I find it amusing that you're acting so concerned about being ';fair'; to him and finding out the best way to tell him. You don't care about this man's feelings at ALL! You slept with and got pregnant by someone else! Why are you suddenly pretending that you care about your husband's feelings??
well you know what they say, you mess up you clean up
I think that once you tell him you are pregnant by another man and have been cheating, he will offer YOU a divorce, so I wouldn't worry about that.
You are weak and I'm glad you feel horrible about yourself...so you should. (but you obviously don't feel; THAT bad because if you did, you'd have finished it ...)
There is NO excuse for cheating.
If you don't love your husband, you should have left him before shagging someone else.
I can't advise you...I'd never shite on someone like that...
You should have applied for a divorce 5 months ago....
try ur luck....
I have not been in your shoes but I would just sit your husband down and tell him the truth. It is always better to tell the truth than to get caught in a lie. If you dont love him anymore and you are ready to get out of the relationship then you need to do just that, It is not fair to you him or the kids to keep on going in a loveless relationship. It is only damaging to everyone involved. Hopefully the guy that you are pregnant with is inlove with you and was not just using you for sex. Good luck and I wish you all the best
You really want the advice of someone who was in the same situation? Not a wise choice! You seem to make bad decisions often. I feel no pity for you! I do feel pity for the Innocent blessing in your tummy that you don't deserve!
You feel horrible about this...what a joke!
first find out if you really are pregnant befor you go telling the men in your life. then if you are, tell the father and see what he has to say. and tell your husband that is a possibility that the baby might not be his. i am sure he will offer you the divorce wih out a blink of an eye. if not, let him know what has been going on and that you don't love him anymore. let him know that you just don't think you can handle living in a loveless marriage anymore and that you want out.
I have not been in a similar situation but am willing to try and help without abusing you ;)
Your baby is a sign that you were not meant to get married,I would take that sign and run with it.
A loveless marriage is not fair on your husband or child.
Dont leave your husband for the other man though, leave him for the right reasons.
I am not trying to be rude but these are the sort of things that you have to contemplate before jumping in the sack with someone else.....You were woman enough to do the deed now you have to be woman enough to accept the consequences of those actions.
It might just surprise you that maybe he is sleeping with someone else also and he will just be relieved to get rid of you....Just talk to him, you never know
be up front and honest its the best thing to do I promise you will get the divorce you want for sure but maybe you guys should have at least tried to save your marriage before you went out and started screwing around? maybe counseling? looks like you have your hands full better spill the beans now before things get worse
I'm in love with a married man, need advice please.?
I am in love with a married man and no he has not cheated on his wife with me nor have we had any intentions or talked in a sexual or relationship way. It all started when we where young 10-11 years old he came with my brother from america to china to visit with him and spend the summer here(yes he is american and white that doesn't matter to me). While he was down here i got to know him very well and he actually one day stopped me from being raped and saved my life all at the same time. From that day i became entranced with him he sat along my bed side all night as i cried and shivered in fear and he just silently sat there not saying any thing or doing any thing just there. Threw that summer we hung out allot and he became a really good friend and i wanted it to be more but we both knew he had to go back to america after the summer was up he also treated me in a way like a sister (very frustrating when you love some one). So when he want back we kept in contact emailed each other at least once a week and he has always sent me a birthday gift. We have visited each other threw out the years when possible. then about 4 years ago i got married and it ended up being to an abusive man and he got married about 5 months later. Well i got divorced about 1 year ago and he is still married and we still talk. But i can't see loving any one else but him we are both close to our thirties now and his marrige is in a rough spot and i seceritly wish he would divorce her so that i can try and get him. He has a daughter and he just adores him i want that type of man. Every man i find doesn't even come close to the type of man his is no one is as great of a person and i can't see loving any one else. i Send him a long email about 3 days ago telling him how i felt and he said this in responce. I love you but i am married now i will always love you as family but as for right now i am married and have a daughter i can't just walk away from this';
I understand his point but i can't help loveing him and if i could i would clone him so that he can stay married and i can have the copy to keep all to my self. I can't ecplaine why i love this man so much nor can i just forget about him he feels like the one, my body mind and soul long for him but he isn't advailable. We will always be good friends and i wont try and mess up or interfear with his marrige i am not that type of woman. Any advice on how to get over him or get to the point not every man has to stack up to him i can just be happy with a good man?
thank you for your adviceI'm in love with a married man, need advice please.?
As hard as it might seem, you need to move on and find someone who is available to receive your love.
Good luck!
I understand his point but i can't help loveing him and if i could i would clone him so that he can stay married and i can have the copy to keep all to my self. I can't ecplaine why i love this man so much nor can i just forget about him he feels like the one, my body mind and soul long for him but he isn't advailable. We will always be good friends and i wont try and mess up or interfear with his marrige i am not that type of woman. Any advice on how to get over him or get to the point not every man has to stack up to him i can just be happy with a good man?
thank you for your adviceI'm in love with a married man, need advice please.?
As hard as it might seem, you need to move on and find someone who is available to receive your love.
Good luck!
Soo, when you give oral to your man.. little advice?
Sorry if this sounds inappropriate..
So i have given head to my last boy two times, i was a beginner and didnt really know what i was doing but i guess i did alright, because he 'came' and he liked me better then previous girls.
But now i meet this new boy; we really like each other, and i gave him oral the other night.
Didnt go so well, it felt like i was sucking for dayyss, all i could think about is when is he going to 'come'?? my jaw started to hurt. But i was determined not to just stop :/ Then he said use your hand more. So i incorperate my hand more in the process.. but still no good. So he said just use my hand. And i did. But he STILL didnt 'come'! ugh. So i felt bad when he had to get up and finish it off.
But im just so confused disapointed why i couldnt get him to.. i mean what did i do wrong? I used some tongue technique, deep throat, NO teeth, not like it was my first time..
is it HIM or ME??
how long does it usually take for you/ your lover? Why does the time vary?
any experience out there?
thanks :c]Soo, when you give oral to your man.. little advice?
Sometimes its just the guy, different things do it for different people and depending on many things it may be harder for some guys to get off during head. But as long as you have good technique and do whatever it is the guy says he likes you have no reason to worry, if he doesn't get off its his fault not yours. Just keep trying different things until you find out what works. Whatever you may try don't forget to try to create a suction of a sort a bit like sucking a straw that is the difference between horrible and wonderful for me at least.Soo, when you give oral to your man.. little advice?
No some just don't pop off with a BJ and can only with normal sex or by themselves.
Its Him not you
Help?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
all guys are different... some are easy to finish and some are more difficult. so its not you... its def. him
this is actually pretty ironic becuase i talked about this with my partner tonight.. ';its just not the same when some one else does it for you, because they dont know exactly what you want, only you yourself knows what can really hit the spot.';
if you really want to do it for him, you gotta communicate. you have to just be open and ask, ';what do you like, what feels the best, what will make it happen for you';
good luck and remember, practice makes perfect. :)
Different boys come differently.
some get really excited %26lt;.%26lt; and come really easily, and dont last that long, and some take a lot longer to come, and last what seems like forever. Its not either of you lol, its not his fault that hes not like your last, and its not your fault because he takes a long time to come. This has actually kind of happened to me before %26lt;.%26lt; lol. uhmm now it doesnt take thattt long, but try other things than just blowing him (regular sex,unless your like saving yourself, uhm or just rubbing your %26lt;.%26lt; on his %26lt;.%26lt;) trying not to be too explicit., and then get him close and then start, it will be alot easier and he can finish up like that. Also when your blowing him, focus alot more on the head :) its the most sensitive. good luckk
Hey, look, here are some tips for you that might help.
1. First you need to get him turned on - be more aggressive, grab his stuff, slowly massage his balls through his pants, it's important that you act as seductive as possible - the more you're turned on - the more he'll be turned on. Pull his pants down slowly and act as naughty as possible - this is a great turn on.
2. Grab his hand and lick on his fingers slowly before you give him head - just put his middle finger slowly into your mouth and suck on it, up and down, slide it slowly and moan - you have to moan a lot so he feels like a king.
3. As you're licking one finger, slowly start stroking his shaft (penis) with your other hand, you have to be on your knees and he should be standing, look him in the eyes - this way you can see his reactions. You need to love giving him head if you want him to really enjoy it.
4. Most girls make the mistake of being too soft - don't do that, grab his **** tightly and stroke it hard, as you're twisting his shaft with one hand slowly start sucking on the head (the tip) of his penis, curl your tongue around it, twist it in circles, then point it upwards and slowly lick it while you're watching him.
5. Say something like ';mmmmm I love it'; then smile, smiling is very important - it conveys that you love it. Keep on stroking and sucking harder.
6. Start talking dirty to him, put your hands around his balls and tickle them gently - make sure you are gentle 'cause his balls are very sensitive, as you're tickling, keep on stroking and sucking.
7. Once you see that he's getting closer start stroking harder - and don't even think about slowing down. Scream at him, tell him you want it - tell him where you want it (swallowing will make him go crazy just as you want it) - then as he starts to come, you have 2 options - you can hold his penis or he can hold it - I suggest you let him hold it and **** it out.
8. Then hold his penis and stroke it slowly, just as if you were trying to squeeze every last drop out of him into your mouth, give it a few more finishing licks.
9. Then smile at him, open your mouth and show him what you've got in your mouth, smile, then swallow all of it - then look up at him again and open your mouth to show him it's gone.
10. Smile again, believe me he'll love you for it.
You've got more A LOT more information in my source box.dermatologist
So i have given head to my last boy two times, i was a beginner and didnt really know what i was doing but i guess i did alright, because he 'came' and he liked me better then previous girls.
But now i meet this new boy; we really like each other, and i gave him oral the other night.
Didnt go so well, it felt like i was sucking for dayyss, all i could think about is when is he going to 'come'?? my jaw started to hurt. But i was determined not to just stop :/ Then he said use your hand more. So i incorperate my hand more in the process.. but still no good. So he said just use my hand. And i did. But he STILL didnt 'come'! ugh. So i felt bad when he had to get up and finish it off.
But im just so confused disapointed why i couldnt get him to.. i mean what did i do wrong? I used some tongue technique, deep throat, NO teeth, not like it was my first time..
is it HIM or ME??
how long does it usually take for you/ your lover? Why does the time vary?
any experience out there?
thanks :c]Soo, when you give oral to your man.. little advice?
Sometimes its just the guy, different things do it for different people and depending on many things it may be harder for some guys to get off during head. But as long as you have good technique and do whatever it is the guy says he likes you have no reason to worry, if he doesn't get off its his fault not yours. Just keep trying different things until you find out what works. Whatever you may try don't forget to try to create a suction of a sort a bit like sucking a straw that is the difference between horrible and wonderful for me at least.Soo, when you give oral to your man.. little advice?
No some just don't pop off with a BJ and can only with normal sex or by themselves.
Its Him not you
Help?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
all guys are different... some are easy to finish and some are more difficult. so its not you... its def. him
this is actually pretty ironic becuase i talked about this with my partner tonight.. ';its just not the same when some one else does it for you, because they dont know exactly what you want, only you yourself knows what can really hit the spot.';
if you really want to do it for him, you gotta communicate. you have to just be open and ask, ';what do you like, what feels the best, what will make it happen for you';
good luck and remember, practice makes perfect. :)
Different boys come differently.
some get really excited %26lt;.%26lt; and come really easily, and dont last that long, and some take a lot longer to come, and last what seems like forever. Its not either of you lol, its not his fault that hes not like your last, and its not your fault because he takes a long time to come. This has actually kind of happened to me before %26lt;.%26lt; lol. uhmm now it doesnt take thattt long, but try other things than just blowing him (regular sex,unless your like saving yourself, uhm or just rubbing your %26lt;.%26lt; on his %26lt;.%26lt;) trying not to be too explicit., and then get him close and then start, it will be alot easier and he can finish up like that. Also when your blowing him, focus alot more on the head :) its the most sensitive. good luckk
Hey, look, here are some tips for you that might help.
1. First you need to get him turned on - be more aggressive, grab his stuff, slowly massage his balls through his pants, it's important that you act as seductive as possible - the more you're turned on - the more he'll be turned on. Pull his pants down slowly and act as naughty as possible - this is a great turn on.
2. Grab his hand and lick on his fingers slowly before you give him head - just put his middle finger slowly into your mouth and suck on it, up and down, slide it slowly and moan - you have to moan a lot so he feels like a king.
3. As you're licking one finger, slowly start stroking his shaft (penis) with your other hand, you have to be on your knees and he should be standing, look him in the eyes - this way you can see his reactions. You need to love giving him head if you want him to really enjoy it.
4. Most girls make the mistake of being too soft - don't do that, grab his **** tightly and stroke it hard, as you're twisting his shaft with one hand slowly start sucking on the head (the tip) of his penis, curl your tongue around it, twist it in circles, then point it upwards and slowly lick it while you're watching him.
5. Say something like ';mmmmm I love it'; then smile, smiling is very important - it conveys that you love it. Keep on stroking and sucking harder.
6. Start talking dirty to him, put your hands around his balls and tickle them gently - make sure you are gentle 'cause his balls are very sensitive, as you're tickling, keep on stroking and sucking.
7. Once you see that he's getting closer start stroking harder - and don't even think about slowing down. Scream at him, tell him you want it - tell him where you want it (swallowing will make him go crazy just as you want it) - then as he starts to come, you have 2 options - you can hold his penis or he can hold it - I suggest you let him hold it and **** it out.
8. Then hold his penis and stroke it slowly, just as if you were trying to squeeze every last drop out of him into your mouth, give it a few more finishing licks.
9. Then smile at him, open your mouth and show him what you've got in your mouth, smile, then swallow all of it - then look up at him again and open your mouth to show him it's gone.
10. Smile again, believe me he'll love you for it.
You've got more A LOT more information in my source box.
I have been married for 6 months & my husband doesn't like my best friend just cause he is a man. Any advice?
Me %26amp; my bf have been through everything together. We have known each other for at least 10 years. We thought about dating once but realized that we were better off friends. It has been the best friendship I have ever had with a man. I know some people say that your spouse should be your best friend. But why do I have to give up someone that has helped me through some tough times in my life? The last time we were all together, my hubby acted so very horrible. He tried to pick a fight with him for no reason. I was embarrassed. Me %26amp; my bf are like 2 guys. We use 2 talk about everything from his women to my men. Now that I am married %26amp; he is about to get married does that really have to change?I have been married for 6 months %26amp; my husband doesn't like my best friend just cause he is a man. Any advice?
The thing is, when you get married things change a lot. Right now you are telling your husband that he has to share your affection with another man. I know that it is hard on your b/c you friend means a lot to you, but this will make for larger problems in your marriage down the road. Now is the time when you need to be focusing on him. As time goes on and your friend gets married himself or soemthing, maybe everything will even out but for now, it is best to slow things down with your friend.I have been married for 6 months %26amp; my husband doesn't like my best friend just cause he is a man. Any advice?
Normal.
imagine he had a best f female it would bother u....
Do you get mad when he talks to girls? If you do, then he is doing the same thing to you. But you can be friends with you ever you please.
marraige trumps friends any day. You two have made a commitment to build a life together. Gotta get rid of that guy friend.
Maybe he feels he is married to you and your friend, how much time do you spend talking to this friend? I agree with tcc how would you feel if he had a best female friend? I am thinking you wouldn't but that is a guess. Things change when you get married, not saying you shouldn't have male friends, but maybe you should talk to and LISTEN to why he doesn't want you to be best Friends with him. He could have a very good reason for it. Remember communication is essential in a relationship.
To a man...... another man who knows his wife better than he does... is a threat. Your husband could be the most enlightened man ever, but on some level he is going to see your best friend in that way, and that will probably never change.
You have to decide what's more important..... a friend...... or the man you made vows to.
When I got married, my best friend (who is a guy) and I couldn't hang out like we used to. Now we are both divorced and we can hang out anytime we want... but that's not the point. When we married, we both made vows to put our wives ahead of the rest of the world... that's what a real man does. That is what your husband wants to do.......... and your continued relationship with another man is a threat.
Find new friends. You can have the occasional phone call... or email.... but to hang out with another guy isn't fair to your husband. YOU wouldn't like him hanging out with another woman....
Good luck.............
I have the same problem, my best friend is my ex- girlfriend...
And her man, is trying to understand, but he blows up at her for hanging with me...
All can say, is given the oportunity, I will eventually make a move for my ex... unless the guy is gay, you can count on something happening. If not initiated by you, then by him.
lol,
we men are not as broadminde as the girls.
for marital bliss, u will have to cut down on with ur friendship.
I can understand how your husband feels threatened by your best friend being a male, but he was your best friend before you married, and you shouldn't have to give that friendship up. Perhaps once he's married, your husband will feel more comfortable about the friendship, if not, you may be forced to choose between them. Talk to your husband about the situation, and see if you can resolve the issue. Good luck!
well are you sure that he's not the second love as your badge says.............
Hmmm鈥?this is difficult and it depends. The question is: why is he jealous? Is he an insecure person or does he feel he doesn't trust you? I think you need to chat about the reasons why he doesn't approve..
Yes, it has already changed. Your husband is not comfortable with it and his new wife is not going to be. There is always the question in the spouse's mind about what is really going on--no matter what you say. The only way it might work is if the 4 of you can do things together. Your husband might settle down a bit once your bf is married.
Even as I write this, I question your relationship with bf, so I can imagine what your husband is thinking.
See my sister, life is sometimes like a trap-pies. You have to balance both the sides in order not to fall down. In your case, before marriage you were a free person, and you had all rights to act according to your interests. But a marriage is not just tying a knot between two individuals. It is a mutual promise to live together till the death of one or both by abiding all social traditions and limitations. A husband will be acting like your's in two occasions.
1. When he is so much of possessive and selfish in your love.
2. When he feel that the other person his spouse is mingling with is ahead in terms of smartness (both physical / behavioral)
Whatever may be the case if he does not like you to closely mingling with another person, just limit your involvement in the other relationship whatever answer may you have to justify such relationship. Suppose tomorrow if he will bring another lady to home and say that ';she is my best friend';, how you will react. Just come to his shoes and think. Gradually try to convince him that there is nothing between you and your friend. When time passes he will have maturity to understand the purity of such relationship and everything will be normal. Till then don't be aggressive of your self ego. That will spoil your life. Wish you all success and a long/happy married life
Ohm Shanti
It sounds like your husband is jealous. Eventually you will have to choose, unless your friend is gay - then your husband should not care, but I think in the back of his head he will have doubts about your past with your bf -some guys are just very insecure like that.
Well then, you should have married the BF. Seems you care more for him that the hubby.
BTW, your hubby wants the relationship you have with the BF, that is why he picks a fight.
reassure him that your just friends...nothing more, nothing less...and only bang your husband
There is nothing wrong with having a best friend of the opposite sex, but it sounds like you landed a hubby that doesn't see it that way. You are in a tough spot because you are already married. It isn't so easy to tell him if he keeps up this close minded attitude you'll walk.
Just because others say your spouse is supposed to be your best friend doesn't mean that they are right.
It seems to me that you husband is jealous that you seem to have a better conncetion with your best guy friend than you husband. He probably feels left out. Talk to him, all the three ouf you go out together. Have fun. Get them two to click the way you did. Don't completely leave your husband out in the cold. I think he's really jealous, tell him that he is about to get married and that he has nothing to be afraid of. Reassure your husband that you still love him, and that you wouldn't jepordise your realtionship. But also tell him that you can't just throw away a good friendship like that because it wouldn't make you happy and I'm sure your husband only wants the best for you. I don't know there's not much I can really say now, but good luck and if your friendship with that guy is as good as you say it is then don't give it up, but talk to your husband and good luck again.
It is beautiful to have such a friend as you have described and at the same time I can understand how your husband feels. He wants to be your best friend. Hopefully in time he will be able to accept your friendship with your best friend. If he doesn't then I can see trouble in your marriage. See if he and your hubby can get together and do guy things, you know get to know one another as friends also.
Your husband should've learned to deal with his jealousy issues before he married you.
UNFORTUNATELY, YOU MUST CHOOSE! Keep a bf you have had for 10 years, or stay with a husband that you have committed to for life! SIMPLE AS THAT.
All of my friends are men and going into any relationship, I have to get acceptance for that or I will not pursue the relationship. I AM NOT WILLING FROM DAY ONE. DID YOUR HUSBAND NOT SAY THAT ALL ALONG?
GOOD LUCK.
No it shouldn鈥檛 have to. You鈥檝e given your husband no reason not to trust you and he knew from the beginning who your best friend was. Tell him that if he didn鈥檛 trust you then he shouldn鈥檛 have married you. He needs to stop punishing you and your best friend just because he has insecurities. Good luck.
My best friend is also a guy, he and I talk about everything, always have and its awesome. My hubby thankfully doesnt get jealous of him, he trusts me and is secure in our relationship. My hubby also has a close female friend and I dont get jealous either. Its all about trust, assuming you have never done anything to damage his trust in you, he should trust you. Maybe include him when you guys get together, double date with your best friend and his girlfriend, maybe the more your hubby gets to know him the less he will be a pain in the ***.
You are not getting the gravity of how serious this is. You need to bond as one EMOTIONALLY ONLY with your husband as the only male in your life. I had a situation similar to yours and never considered it was a problem til the shoe was on the other foot. How would you feel if your husband had a die hard emotional relationship with a female and the two of you had hard times. Who would you turn to? You both are setting yourselves up for failure in your marriage. All the good connections you have with your friend you should choose to develop with your husband if he is more important to you. Good Luck! Natasha
Ur husband is right my ex wife had a best Friend (man ) n she cheated on me with him it all started out ow were just Friends
but u never know ........
so i don't blame him for b Inga that way n b side may b he sees something Ur not like the way Ur Friend looking at u ....!!!!
You and your husband need to sit down and talk this through.
You haven't given your husband any reason to not trust you or your friend, so I don't know why he's acting this way now.
Ok, so do I agree that your husband should see the relationship for what it is and let it go...yes.
Do I agree that you have the right to see your best friend anyway...NO.
Your husband is being insecurre. But you did vow to hold him above all others. If other reasoning doesn't work, you should stop seeing your best friend. Sorry.
The thing is, when you get married things change a lot. Right now you are telling your husband that he has to share your affection with another man. I know that it is hard on your b/c you friend means a lot to you, but this will make for larger problems in your marriage down the road. Now is the time when you need to be focusing on him. As time goes on and your friend gets married himself or soemthing, maybe everything will even out but for now, it is best to slow things down with your friend.I have been married for 6 months %26amp; my husband doesn't like my best friend just cause he is a man. Any advice?
Normal.
imagine he had a best f female it would bother u....
Do you get mad when he talks to girls? If you do, then he is doing the same thing to you. But you can be friends with you ever you please.
marraige trumps friends any day. You two have made a commitment to build a life together. Gotta get rid of that guy friend.
Maybe he feels he is married to you and your friend, how much time do you spend talking to this friend? I agree with tcc how would you feel if he had a best female friend? I am thinking you wouldn't but that is a guess. Things change when you get married, not saying you shouldn't have male friends, but maybe you should talk to and LISTEN to why he doesn't want you to be best Friends with him. He could have a very good reason for it. Remember communication is essential in a relationship.
To a man...... another man who knows his wife better than he does... is a threat. Your husband could be the most enlightened man ever, but on some level he is going to see your best friend in that way, and that will probably never change.
You have to decide what's more important..... a friend...... or the man you made vows to.
When I got married, my best friend (who is a guy) and I couldn't hang out like we used to. Now we are both divorced and we can hang out anytime we want... but that's not the point. When we married, we both made vows to put our wives ahead of the rest of the world... that's what a real man does. That is what your husband wants to do.......... and your continued relationship with another man is a threat.
Find new friends. You can have the occasional phone call... or email.... but to hang out with another guy isn't fair to your husband. YOU wouldn't like him hanging out with another woman....
Good luck.............
I have the same problem, my best friend is my ex- girlfriend...
And her man, is trying to understand, but he blows up at her for hanging with me...
All can say, is given the oportunity, I will eventually make a move for my ex... unless the guy is gay, you can count on something happening. If not initiated by you, then by him.
lol,
we men are not as broadminde as the girls.
for marital bliss, u will have to cut down on with ur friendship.
I can understand how your husband feels threatened by your best friend being a male, but he was your best friend before you married, and you shouldn't have to give that friendship up. Perhaps once he's married, your husband will feel more comfortable about the friendship, if not, you may be forced to choose between them. Talk to your husband about the situation, and see if you can resolve the issue. Good luck!
well are you sure that he's not the second love as your badge says.............
Hmmm鈥?this is difficult and it depends. The question is: why is he jealous? Is he an insecure person or does he feel he doesn't trust you? I think you need to chat about the reasons why he doesn't approve..
Yes, it has already changed. Your husband is not comfortable with it and his new wife is not going to be. There is always the question in the spouse's mind about what is really going on--no matter what you say. The only way it might work is if the 4 of you can do things together. Your husband might settle down a bit once your bf is married.
Even as I write this, I question your relationship with bf, so I can imagine what your husband is thinking.
See my sister, life is sometimes like a trap-pies. You have to balance both the sides in order not to fall down. In your case, before marriage you were a free person, and you had all rights to act according to your interests. But a marriage is not just tying a knot between two individuals. It is a mutual promise to live together till the death of one or both by abiding all social traditions and limitations. A husband will be acting like your's in two occasions.
1. When he is so much of possessive and selfish in your love.
2. When he feel that the other person his spouse is mingling with is ahead in terms of smartness (both physical / behavioral)
Whatever may be the case if he does not like you to closely mingling with another person, just limit your involvement in the other relationship whatever answer may you have to justify such relationship. Suppose tomorrow if he will bring another lady to home and say that ';she is my best friend';, how you will react. Just come to his shoes and think. Gradually try to convince him that there is nothing between you and your friend. When time passes he will have maturity to understand the purity of such relationship and everything will be normal. Till then don't be aggressive of your self ego. That will spoil your life. Wish you all success and a long/happy married life
Ohm Shanti
It sounds like your husband is jealous. Eventually you will have to choose, unless your friend is gay - then your husband should not care, but I think in the back of his head he will have doubts about your past with your bf -some guys are just very insecure like that.
Well then, you should have married the BF. Seems you care more for him that the hubby.
BTW, your hubby wants the relationship you have with the BF, that is why he picks a fight.
reassure him that your just friends...nothing more, nothing less...and only bang your husband
There is nothing wrong with having a best friend of the opposite sex, but it sounds like you landed a hubby that doesn't see it that way. You are in a tough spot because you are already married. It isn't so easy to tell him if he keeps up this close minded attitude you'll walk.
Just because others say your spouse is supposed to be your best friend doesn't mean that they are right.
It seems to me that you husband is jealous that you seem to have a better conncetion with your best guy friend than you husband. He probably feels left out. Talk to him, all the three ouf you go out together. Have fun. Get them two to click the way you did. Don't completely leave your husband out in the cold. I think he's really jealous, tell him that he is about to get married and that he has nothing to be afraid of. Reassure your husband that you still love him, and that you wouldn't jepordise your realtionship. But also tell him that you can't just throw away a good friendship like that because it wouldn't make you happy and I'm sure your husband only wants the best for you. I don't know there's not much I can really say now, but good luck and if your friendship with that guy is as good as you say it is then don't give it up, but talk to your husband and good luck again.
It is beautiful to have such a friend as you have described and at the same time I can understand how your husband feels. He wants to be your best friend. Hopefully in time he will be able to accept your friendship with your best friend. If he doesn't then I can see trouble in your marriage. See if he and your hubby can get together and do guy things, you know get to know one another as friends also.
Your husband should've learned to deal with his jealousy issues before he married you.
UNFORTUNATELY, YOU MUST CHOOSE! Keep a bf you have had for 10 years, or stay with a husband that you have committed to for life! SIMPLE AS THAT.
All of my friends are men and going into any relationship, I have to get acceptance for that or I will not pursue the relationship. I AM NOT WILLING FROM DAY ONE. DID YOUR HUSBAND NOT SAY THAT ALL ALONG?
GOOD LUCK.
No it shouldn鈥檛 have to. You鈥檝e given your husband no reason not to trust you and he knew from the beginning who your best friend was. Tell him that if he didn鈥檛 trust you then he shouldn鈥檛 have married you. He needs to stop punishing you and your best friend just because he has insecurities. Good luck.
My best friend is also a guy, he and I talk about everything, always have and its awesome. My hubby thankfully doesnt get jealous of him, he trusts me and is secure in our relationship. My hubby also has a close female friend and I dont get jealous either. Its all about trust, assuming you have never done anything to damage his trust in you, he should trust you. Maybe include him when you guys get together, double date with your best friend and his girlfriend, maybe the more your hubby gets to know him the less he will be a pain in the ***.
You are not getting the gravity of how serious this is. You need to bond as one EMOTIONALLY ONLY with your husband as the only male in your life. I had a situation similar to yours and never considered it was a problem til the shoe was on the other foot. How would you feel if your husband had a die hard emotional relationship with a female and the two of you had hard times. Who would you turn to? You both are setting yourselves up for failure in your marriage. All the good connections you have with your friend you should choose to develop with your husband if he is more important to you. Good Luck! Natasha
Ur husband is right my ex wife had a best Friend (man ) n she cheated on me with him it all started out ow were just Friends
but u never know ........
so i don't blame him for b Inga that way n b side may b he sees something Ur not like the way Ur Friend looking at u ....!!!!
You and your husband need to sit down and talk this through.
You haven't given your husband any reason to not trust you or your friend, so I don't know why he's acting this way now.
Ok, so do I agree that your husband should see the relationship for what it is and let it go...yes.
Do I agree that you have the right to see your best friend anyway...NO.
Your husband is being insecurre. But you did vow to hold him above all others. If other reasoning doesn't work, you should stop seeing your best friend. Sorry.
Im developing a crush on this man need advice?
I go to this place every day to eat with my child and there is this guy there that is a cook and host and I started to develop a crush on him I heard he has a child as well while he was talking on his cell phone basically I need some advice I thought about juss writing my phone number and putting it in his pocket and being forward but I don't know I would like to get to know him more but I don't know if he has a woman or if he even would like me plus he may not be viewed attractive in most peoples eyes.. how can I let him know how im feeling we are both adults so its not like its a 5th grade crush need some advice thanksIm developing a crush on this man need advice?
I wouldn't slip your number into his pocket. That's more for a one night stand. You should smile at him, say ';hi'; when you pass, let him know that your lunch was great, etc. Anything that allows you to be friendly and flirty. He will start to notice you and give you personal service. When he starts to notice you two, ask him if he has worked there long or how he likes the job. Just some small talk or chit chat. As you become more comfortable with him and get the vibe that he looks forward to seeing you, ask him to join you and your child for lunch or to sit for awhile. It may work. Good luck
I wouldn't slip your number into his pocket. That's more for a one night stand. You should smile at him, say ';hi'; when you pass, let him know that your lunch was great, etc. Anything that allows you to be friendly and flirty. He will start to notice you and give you personal service. When he starts to notice you two, ask him if he has worked there long or how he likes the job. Just some small talk or chit chat. As you become more comfortable with him and get the vibe that he looks forward to seeing you, ask him to join you and your child for lunch or to sit for awhile. It may work. Good luck
Is it weird to date a guy that is 14 yrs older? advice on dating an older man?
I'm 22 and he's 36 he has his career and I'll starting one once i graduate from college. What are some of advantage and disadvantage of dating a older guy?Is it weird to date a guy that is 14 yrs older? advice on dating an older man?
Ever since high school I've only dated older men. There are good points and bad. I like the fact that they are usually settled, mature, experienced, not into beating around the bush and willing to do anything to please you. They also tend to be more adventurous because you bring out the young side in them. They enjoy opening you up to new experiences and introducing you to different things that you would have never imaged at a young age. You can learn a lot from older men. The down points are that sometimes they tend to act as though they are your father. They feel that they know everything because you are younger and dumber. They will also take you for granted because they feel that you should be grateful that you are with them....but what man doesn't think that way...lol.Is it weird to date a guy that is 14 yrs older? advice on dating an older man?
i'd say don't do it... unless u have no intention of marriage.
I know this guy who married a woman like 13 years younger than him. they had a child and then everything fell apart - they divorced.
Did you ever have this problem with your parents of a lack of common interests? Its a generation gap between the two of you. your going to have a bit of trouble staying together but thats only my opinion.
there have been success stories but if it was me, id say don't even go there!!
he is experienced, um, he'll be an old dad.
You go, girl!
Livin' the dream...ahhh...
anyways, hmm, can't admit I have similar experience (sadly), but at least you'll be out of school soon, right?! So you'll basically be on the same page..he'll just be a few years ahead. But he's not ready to retire, is he? So no worries love. :)
Ever since high school I've only dated older men. There are good points and bad. I like the fact that they are usually settled, mature, experienced, not into beating around the bush and willing to do anything to please you. They also tend to be more adventurous because you bring out the young side in them. They enjoy opening you up to new experiences and introducing you to different things that you would have never imaged at a young age. You can learn a lot from older men. The down points are that sometimes they tend to act as though they are your father. They feel that they know everything because you are younger and dumber. They will also take you for granted because they feel that you should be grateful that you are with them....but what man doesn't think that way...lol.Is it weird to date a guy that is 14 yrs older? advice on dating an older man?
i'd say don't do it... unless u have no intention of marriage.
I know this guy who married a woman like 13 years younger than him. they had a child and then everything fell apart - they divorced.
Did you ever have this problem with your parents of a lack of common interests? Its a generation gap between the two of you. your going to have a bit of trouble staying together but thats only my opinion.
there have been success stories but if it was me, id say don't even go there!!
he is experienced, um, he'll be an old dad.
You go, girl!
Livin' the dream...ahhh...
anyways, hmm, can't admit I have similar experience (sadly), but at least you'll be out of school soon, right?! So you'll basically be on the same page..he'll just be a few years ahead. But he's not ready to retire, is he? So no worries love. :)
All I need is a MATURE MAN'S advice plzz!!!?
Me and this guy haven't seen or talked to eachother in about 2 1/2 years. We used to be really good freinds and hung out a lot. About a month ago I found him on facebook and we've been writing on eachother's walls since. He's really really talkative and friendly and nice when he writes back-And he writes a lot =). Anyways, so I want to hang out with him...Do you think he wants to hang out? If he does, then why hasn't he asked?
P.S. We are both 16.All I need is a MATURE MAN'S advice plzz!!!?
He's probably just shy. It's a lot less stressful to talk to people online then to be with them in person. Ask him out. He's probably hoping you will make the first move.All I need is a MATURE MAN'S advice plzz!!!?
maybe your not the only one in his life, im not tryin to be mean but maybe he hangs out with allot of friends and is popular.
well im 15 so i must be a mature man huh?
Anyways yeah im sure asking him out to starbucks for coffee isnt a bad idea or sumtin like that
P.S. We are both 16.All I need is a MATURE MAN'S advice plzz!!!?
He's probably just shy. It's a lot less stressful to talk to people online then to be with them in person. Ask him out. He's probably hoping you will make the first move.All I need is a MATURE MAN'S advice plzz!!!?
maybe your not the only one in his life, im not tryin to be mean but maybe he hangs out with allot of friends and is popular.
well im 15 so i must be a mature man huh?
Anyways yeah im sure asking him out to starbucks for coffee isnt a bad idea or sumtin like that
Omg i thinks i prego..o man ..need advice plz?
ok..im 16 years old....and i no that omg ur not posed to have sex until marrige....well i was';in the moment...and I THINK im knocked up...i cant have a baby!!!!my family will beat the **** out of me ....and i cant get a test thingy to see if i am or not....i no that this is bad...but ..i dnt want this kid..ok...im like 50% sure i am pregnant..just look at me ..im kinda huge ...omg im freaking out idk wat to do i need help!!!and fyi...i am on birth control..its an implant...okOmg i thinks i prego..o man ..need advice plz?
... Get married to the guy if your supposed to!Omg i thinks i prego..o man ..need advice plz?
Since you're 16 it is legal to have sex. You could go to the local pharmacist and get a pregnancy test. They're not hard to use. With and implant in it shouldn't be too likely to get pregnant. I know one of my friends always freaks out that she's pregnant. But she hasn't gotten knocked up yet.
I hope this has helped.
E-mail me if you need anymore advice.
xoxox
good luck with it all.
your 16 you should not even be doing that. But you should get tested just to see if you are because it isa 50:50 chance and if you don'tt want it then give it up 4 adaption is it your boyfriend or did yu just get caught in 5the moment with some guy?
You need to see a doctor. You need to tell your family and get checked. The worst possible situation is if you bring a child into this world as immature as you are.
Make spaghetti.
... Get married to the guy if your supposed to!Omg i thinks i prego..o man ..need advice plz?
Since you're 16 it is legal to have sex. You could go to the local pharmacist and get a pregnancy test. They're not hard to use. With and implant in it shouldn't be too likely to get pregnant. I know one of my friends always freaks out that she's pregnant. But she hasn't gotten knocked up yet.
I hope this has helped.
E-mail me if you need anymore advice.
xoxox
good luck with it all.
your 16 you should not even be doing that. But you should get tested just to see if you are because it isa 50:50 chance and if you don'tt want it then give it up 4 adaption is it your boyfriend or did yu just get caught in 5the moment with some guy?
You need to see a doctor. You need to tell your family and get checked. The worst possible situation is if you bring a child into this world as immature as you are.
Make spaghetti.
Who will win one & test series in west indies ? [ IND OR WI ] . also advice for man of the series?
As an unbiased observer, on current form Windies will win both the 1 dayers and test series
M.O.M. 1 dayers = Sarwan
M.O.M. Tests = ChanderpaulWho will win one %26amp; test series in west indies ? [ IND OR WI ] . also advice for man of the series?
W.I wins the ODIs while test series drawn.
man of the series; Brian Lara.Who will win one %26amp; test series in west indies ? [ IND OR WI ] . also advice for man of the series?
Sarwan will be the man of the series.
India will win the series
I think India will lose ODIE series and man of the series goes to Sarwan
Test match India will win same lake Pakistan tore.
Pakistan lose ODI series and won Test series
West Indies
Man of the Series : Agarbar (INDIA)
I think India will win the ODI's TESTS in West Indies.India will come back inthe ODI's.
MAN OF THE SERIES { ODI's }- Yuvraj Singh
MAN OF THE SERIES { TESTS } - Rahul Dravid
West indies
Ramnaresh Sarwan
west indies will win one day series and test series.
one day series man of the series sarwan or yuvraj or dravid.
test series man of the series sehwag or dravid or chanderpaul or lara
india...
reason: windies didnt win the last match by a great margin and jus becos 3 indians got run out in the middle order in this match doesnt mean it will happen again..
i think india is a good batting team and is improving in bowling too... my guess is India will win the one dayersbeauty cosmetics
M.O.M. 1 dayers = Sarwan
M.O.M. Tests = ChanderpaulWho will win one %26amp; test series in west indies ? [ IND OR WI ] . also advice for man of the series?
W.I wins the ODIs while test series drawn.
man of the series; Brian Lara.Who will win one %26amp; test series in west indies ? [ IND OR WI ] . also advice for man of the series?
Sarwan will be the man of the series.
India will win the series
I think India will lose ODIE series and man of the series goes to Sarwan
Test match India will win same lake Pakistan tore.
Pakistan lose ODI series and won Test series
West Indies
Man of the Series : Agarbar (INDIA)
I think India will win the ODI's TESTS in West Indies.India will come back inthe ODI's.
MAN OF THE SERIES { ODI's }- Yuvraj Singh
MAN OF THE SERIES { TESTS } - Rahul Dravid
West indies
Ramnaresh Sarwan
west indies will win one day series and test series.
one day series man of the series sarwan or yuvraj or dravid.
test series man of the series sehwag or dravid or chanderpaul or lara
india...
reason: windies didnt win the last match by a great margin and jus becos 3 indians got run out in the middle order in this match doesnt mean it will happen again..
i think india is a good batting team and is improving in bowling too... my guess is India will win the one dayers
What do you think of this man?pls advice urgent?
There is a guy who was after me for the last one month.He told me many times he is in love with me and i fall in love with him too.He is acting funny with me lately,he tells me recently that he is very busy with work and all the crappy stories of him being busy.If he is not interested in me anymore i think it would be more respectable for both of us if he told me Im not interested in you and I would stop calling him.The sad part is that he is not straight forward and he keeps ignoring my calls and says he is loaded with work which I think is bs.I think he is not truthfull because nothing has changed his work and i know that.I love him so much now but i never wanted our relationship to reach to this stage.I thought if me and him never end up together atleast we could be good friends and if what im thinking is true then i think that wont be happening as well because i wouldnt want to be a friend with a jerk.Do you think i should stop calling him? And he told me lately to stop the drama which i don't really understand.Anyways would like to know what is the best advice you could give me regarding the man?
Thanks alotWhat do you think of this man?pls advice urgent?
Definitely don't call him anymore. This shows self respect. Sounds to me like he probably has another lady friend and hasn't told you. If he told you to stop the drama, then he's over it. You can't control the situation, so even if it hurts, show your self respect and let him be. If he does like you in some way, friends or other, you will see him come back around faster if you leave him alone now. Men are like rubber bands, women are like waves. (quote from Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus). When a man separates himself for space issues, the sooner you leave him alone, the sooner he comes back. The further you push him not respecting his quest for space, the longer it takes for him to come back around.What do you think of this man?pls advice urgent?
Stop calling him. He's making it painfully obvious that he doesn't want to pursue anything at this time, so don't keep pushing the issue. He seems like an insincere man, to be telling you he loves you and then suddenly backing off like this. Sounds to me like you might not have been the only girl he was saying all that to.
i think his goal was to get you and once he got you it was no fun it's like he was playing a game and men they like to achieve things and once the schieve thing they move on to the next challange so b4 he moves on i say you beat him to the punch and move on k
It should be clear to you that he's not interested anymore. If he was, he would make time for you. Stop calling him and find someone who actually cares about you and wants to spend time with you. If you don't you'll just be making a fool of yourself.
Hot in a relationship you are doing two things in the relationship. One is you are contributing or contaminating. It sounds to me like there is some contamination going on here from him. Don't settle for anything less that what you are giving.
Try meeting a new guy, then if he acts jealous then you know he still likes you. You don't have to be more than friends with the new guy but if the person you love cares for you it will be enough to make him realise that you feel uncared for.
It's only been a month and you're not even actually together and you're in love with this guy? PLEASE get some counseling. And stop calling him. Just take the hints.
Leave him before he tells u it is over.There are many men better than him.
Sounds like he was leading you on from the start..
Dont waste your time on him!
Men HATE being ignored...it will be hard but you have to do it. You will know after a few days what's going on... If he can't ';man-up'; move on
Stop calling him. Sounds like he's been leading you on.
I don't think that he cares about you, if he did, he would've at least warn you that he'll be busy at work and therefore he would've needed some space from you and he'll make sure you won't think anything negative about him. If he loved you, he wouldn't ignore your call or at least he would've returned your call if he got missed calls from you,he'll put some efforts into it.But that's only IF he loved you and cared about you. I'd say don't waste your time for him
Thanks alotWhat do you think of this man?pls advice urgent?
Definitely don't call him anymore. This shows self respect. Sounds to me like he probably has another lady friend and hasn't told you. If he told you to stop the drama, then he's over it. You can't control the situation, so even if it hurts, show your self respect and let him be. If he does like you in some way, friends or other, you will see him come back around faster if you leave him alone now. Men are like rubber bands, women are like waves. (quote from Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus). When a man separates himself for space issues, the sooner you leave him alone, the sooner he comes back. The further you push him not respecting his quest for space, the longer it takes for him to come back around.What do you think of this man?pls advice urgent?
Stop calling him. He's making it painfully obvious that he doesn't want to pursue anything at this time, so don't keep pushing the issue. He seems like an insincere man, to be telling you he loves you and then suddenly backing off like this. Sounds to me like you might not have been the only girl he was saying all that to.
i think his goal was to get you and once he got you it was no fun it's like he was playing a game and men they like to achieve things and once the schieve thing they move on to the next challange so b4 he moves on i say you beat him to the punch and move on k
It should be clear to you that he's not interested anymore. If he was, he would make time for you. Stop calling him and find someone who actually cares about you and wants to spend time with you. If you don't you'll just be making a fool of yourself.
Hot in a relationship you are doing two things in the relationship. One is you are contributing or contaminating. It sounds to me like there is some contamination going on here from him. Don't settle for anything less that what you are giving.
Try meeting a new guy, then if he acts jealous then you know he still likes you. You don't have to be more than friends with the new guy but if the person you love cares for you it will be enough to make him realise that you feel uncared for.
It's only been a month and you're not even actually together and you're in love with this guy? PLEASE get some counseling. And stop calling him. Just take the hints.
Leave him before he tells u it is over.There are many men better than him.
Sounds like he was leading you on from the start..
Dont waste your time on him!
Men HATE being ignored...it will be hard but you have to do it. You will know after a few days what's going on... If he can't ';man-up'; move on
Stop calling him. Sounds like he's been leading you on.
I don't think that he cares about you, if he did, he would've at least warn you that he'll be busy at work and therefore he would've needed some space from you and he'll make sure you won't think anything negative about him. If he loved you, he wouldn't ignore your call or at least he would've returned your call if he got missed calls from you,he'll put some efforts into it.But that's only IF he loved you and cared about you. I'd say don't waste your time for him
In need of a smart man's advice?
i need to know if this is wrong.. i like this guy a lot and im sure he likes me too.. but i dont think he is right for me so im going to listen to my brain and try to ignore my emotions... but of course its hard to control emotions. we have been flirty friends/classmates for almost a year now. so is it wrong if i continue to show a little interest in this guy by flirting and giving him attention but still leaving him puzzled about if i actually like him more than a friend. i dont want to get rid of him. as much as i want to be with him, i wont. i have a lot of self control. so am i allowed to show some interest as opposed to none. im not showing enough interest to want to be with him. i try to make it as casual as possible. for example, on facebook me, him, and some other classmates are discussing some stuff in a message board. and he randomly asks if any of us want to go on a trip with him next week and i know that question is aimed towards me. so what do i say? i do want to go of course but im not going to. i dont want to ignore the question so can i show some interest by saying ';sounds fun, who all is going';? even though im not going. help please. i dont want to lead him on or hurt him.
p.s. i do have classes with him next semester.In need of a smart man's advice?
That's good that you are going with what you think rather than let your emotions get a hold of you. Not a lot of people can do that.
Anyways, if you do not want him to be any more than a boyfriend, then just treat him like any other friend. Don't flirt constantly with him, that's leading him on just for him to fall on his face. There is no easier way to hurt a guy than by leading them on.
So just talk to him like a friend. Make sure he knows that you just want to be friends. Don't flirt all the time.
Good luck. Hope I helped.
~Nick
p.s. i do have classes with him next semester.In need of a smart man's advice?
That's good that you are going with what you think rather than let your emotions get a hold of you. Not a lot of people can do that.
Anyways, if you do not want him to be any more than a boyfriend, then just treat him like any other friend. Don't flirt constantly with him, that's leading him on just for him to fall on his face. There is no easier way to hurt a guy than by leading them on.
So just talk to him like a friend. Make sure he knows that you just want to be friends. Don't flirt all the time.
Good luck. Hope I helped.
~Nick
CANCER WOMAN...Confused about virgo man!!! (mature advice only lol)?
okay i've been seeing this guy that my friend hooked me up with for a month now.Everything started out soo good. He was taking me out to lunch just about evryday and we would stay together at night.. almost everynight at that.. he would call and text me throughout the day and tell me how much he likes me and wants me to stay with him once he gets this new apartment..well now things are starting to change.he doesnt call or text as much as he used to nor do we stay together anymore like we used to either... so i called him a few times to see why he's been bluffing me like crazy for the last week and a half he just says hes sorry and really acts like he cares a little . but then still continues not to call or anything anymore.. but heres the icing on the cake i seen him thursday night while i was at my friends house and he was on my heels so hard and we ending up staying together that night everything was sweet.. when he dropped me off the next morning he told me he was gonna call me guess what.... HE DIDN'T,, so saturday night rolls around and im out on the town with my homegirls its about 4 am and we pull into this gas station not too far from my house and guess who i see.... ole boy in the car with another byotch.. i cursed him out and then pulled off.. i was soo pissed but most importantly it hurt me deeply cause i fell for him soo quickly and i normally dont do that.. SOMEONE ...ANYONE PLEASE HELP ME ... SHOULD I JUST SAY F*@K HIM OR WHAT IDK... I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM!!!!!!!CANCER WOMAN...Confused about virgo man!!! (mature advice only lol)?
idk get a hobbyCANCER WOMAN...Confused about virgo man!!! (mature advice only lol)?
If you really have cancer you don't need a jerk like that around.
Kick him to the curb!
the exact same thing happened to me i am sag. he is virgo. my dear find yourself a decent man. virgo men have a severe fear of commitment. most of them remains bachelors. they will use you for as long as you allow them to. they are very cold. if he calls you tell him you have found someone else and have moved on even if it isnt so, then put his number on the reject list. if you continue to see him he will hurt you continously. good luck.
idk get a hobbyCANCER WOMAN...Confused about virgo man!!! (mature advice only lol)?
If you really have cancer you don't need a jerk like that around.
Kick him to the curb!
the exact same thing happened to me i am sag. he is virgo. my dear find yourself a decent man. virgo men have a severe fear of commitment. most of them remains bachelors. they will use you for as long as you allow them to. they are very cold. if he calls you tell him you have found someone else and have moved on even if it isnt so, then put his number on the reject list. if you continue to see him he will hurt you continously. good luck.
Should I take the old man's advice? Or move on?
My girlfriend just broke up with me. We both really really like each other but she didn't have enough time to spend with me because of a working 40 hours a week on top of senior year. It's hard for me to let her go because I'm crazy about her but it was her decision and I'm not going to get mad at her about it and ruin what we still have.
But I was talking to my grandpa about it today. He said I should 'still put my bid in'. Meaning if that's the only reason why we broke up and I'm still crazy about her and she still likes me, go for it again and try to win her back. But should I go for this? If I do, how would I do it? How would I convince her?
Thank you so very much.Should I take the old man's advice? Or move on?
If she was truthful about her reasons for breaking up with you, then yes, there should still be a chance, and I would have to say that her reason is a noble one. I don't know about trying to convince her that she should be with you though. I think it would be enough to maintain a strong enough presence in her life so that she can see that breaking up with you probably wasn't the best decision. Good luck!
Should I take the old man's advice? Or move on?
What you have going for you is that she is a full time student with a full time job and cant possibly have time for another guy. You can take your grandfather's advice - but remember - she still isnt going to have time for a relationship - so how much time do you really expect to spend with her - and is that enough for you - and is she going to be able to handle all of this without any sleep . . .
I think gramps is right. If you like her this much then go for it. lifes too short as it is. Tell her that you know she doesnt have allot of time right now but you still like her and are willing to wait for her if she will just take you back. This should totally work. But dont say anything that you dont mean. It sounds like you two have something special. I wouldnt let it get go without a fight.
So you dont wanna do anything about it but your grampa tells you to... well um I would...actually i dont know im stumped lol... Dont just let it slide away from you. But dont force it back either...
But I was talking to my grandpa about it today. He said I should 'still put my bid in'. Meaning if that's the only reason why we broke up and I'm still crazy about her and she still likes me, go for it again and try to win her back. But should I go for this? If I do, how would I do it? How would I convince her?
Thank you so very much.Should I take the old man's advice? Or move on?
If she was truthful about her reasons for breaking up with you, then yes, there should still be a chance, and I would have to say that her reason is a noble one. I don't know about trying to convince her that she should be with you though. I think it would be enough to maintain a strong enough presence in her life so that she can see that breaking up with you probably wasn't the best decision. Good luck!
Should I take the old man's advice? Or move on?
What you have going for you is that she is a full time student with a full time job and cant possibly have time for another guy. You can take your grandfather's advice - but remember - she still isnt going to have time for a relationship - so how much time do you really expect to spend with her - and is that enough for you - and is she going to be able to handle all of this without any sleep . . .
I think gramps is right. If you like her this much then go for it. lifes too short as it is. Tell her that you know she doesnt have allot of time right now but you still like her and are willing to wait for her if she will just take you back. This should totally work. But dont say anything that you dont mean. It sounds like you two have something special. I wouldnt let it get go without a fight.
So you dont wanna do anything about it but your grampa tells you to... well um I would...actually i dont know im stumped lol... Dont just let it slide away from you. But dont force it back either...
In love with a dieing man... need advice plz?
My story begins almost 3 months ago when i met a man online who i was convinced was my soul mate. We shared the same interests, the attraction we had towards each other was too strong to ignore and we acted on them.later on i felt he was pushing me away,so i did go away only to find him again and then we hit it off immediately. we took it to the next level we wud spend hrs just talking.We discussed a lot of future plans that now haunt me and hurt so much, he told me he loved me and promised to never leave me..time passed by and i felt i was in heaven, it was then when he told me that he will have to break his promise.. and that he is suffering from a brain tumor.. he told me to leave him coz he doesnt want to c me get hurt, we cried all nite over the fon and i told him i wanted to b with him but he refused. I do respect his wishes but i needed some advice if anyone has gone thru the same situation.. i am really torn and confused, i cant sleep or eat or do anything but think of him :(In love with a dieing man... need advice plz?
awww i'm so sorry....
It's like that age old question... Is it better to of loved and lost then never to of loved at all....
What you do is up to you but you bascially have two options...
You could cut ties off with him completely... it may save yourself heartache, but is it fair on him...?
You could just be there for him... if you really love him then surely you would want to spend all the thim you have left together...
I'm so sorry and i hope things work out for you...
awww i'm so sorry....
It's like that age old question... Is it better to of loved and lost then never to of loved at all....
What you do is up to you but you bascially have two options...
You could cut ties off with him completely... it may save yourself heartache, but is it fair on him...?
You could just be there for him... if you really love him then surely you would want to spend all the thim you have left together...
I'm so sorry and i hope things work out for you...
Ladies PLEASE HELP MILTARY MAN NEEDS ADVICE?
Alright here it goes: I am currently serveing on my second tour in Iraq. And I am married. I love my wife. But for lack of better words, she's self absorbed. Her sister is staying with her while I'm gone and while I've been away, they went got dressed up, put on make up and low cut tops and went out to a bar till 3am. I told her I didn't like it. (in the nicest way possible) while still coming across pretty clear. Well a month goes by and she's done it again. Only this time she doesn't tell me about it. I've caught her lying about how much money she's spending while I'm gone (although I haven't let her know), she promised to send me a letter a week while I'm gone (I've gotten 1 in the five months I've been gone so far) she doesn't e-mail me, she'll pick up the phone when I call. But she just acts like everything is hunk dory. I'm aat a loss as to how to react. I want to react, but I know if I just get pissed off she will feel attacked and just stop listening. And probably do it again. I've tried telling her how I feel about it. But that didn't even phaze her. What do I do? From 12,000 miles away?Ladies PLEASE HELP MILTARY MAN NEEDS ADVICE?
Being a military wife, I've seen this stuff happen plenty of times. A wife should be somebody you are able to trust, not someone who lies to you about what they are doing, how much money they are spending, etc. As your wife, she should be doing things like writing you letters, and if she has only written you one in five months then there is something wrong. Honestly from what I've seen of military wives, the ones that go out and get all dressed up are usually the ones that cheat on their husbands. Don't get me wrong, there are some who don't, but most of the time if they are wearing low cut shirts getting all dressed up, and going out with another girl, that's usually the case. It's fine if she goes out once every couple of months just to loosen up, but she should be wearing jeans and a T-shirt, not a low cut shirt.
This is what you need to do. Tell your wife that you are in a very uncomfortable position. Tell her that it's hurting you a lot. Be upfront and honest with her. Give her an ultimatum. Tell her that if she keeps things going like this, you won't be able to trust her anymore. With out trust, you won't be able to be married to her. Also bring up the money issue. Tell her that you are concerned, as would any husband be. Be calm about everything and don't yell. Just make sure she knows how serious about it you are and then maybe she'll straighten up her act.
Being a wife to somebody in the military is hard at times, so you have to remember that. But what you need to remember most is that she should be supporting you as much as she possibly can. She shouldn't be doing things all the time that are making you upset and stressed out while you are in iraq. That's very self centered and she is not thinking in your best interest at all. In my opinion tell her to be honest and to stop doing what she's doing or you'll leave her. A wife should be somebody who cares what you have to say, not somebody who blows off everything you are saying like it's not a big deal when it really is to you.
Think about yourself and what you really deserve. Good luck with everything, don't let her walk all over you.Ladies PLEASE HELP MILTARY MAN NEEDS ADVICE?
Thank you for serving our country!
Put only what she needs to get by in the joint account. Put the rest in a savings account she doesn't have access to. Suggest she get a part-time job to pay for her extras.
You guys need to have a serious talk, but it probably wont do any good until you get home.
It makes me so mad to hear stuff like that women that have good men and do them wrong. Honistly you deserve better you should leave her if she cannot respect you. ALL kinds of ppl go to the bar i dont htink that is somewhere where you should go if you are married sorry
Well...she sure shows her TRUE colors. You have a right to get mad~!
She is out messing around on you. Its plain as day.
Pull the money from her. She is a dog to do this to you while you are serving our country.
I am proud of you honey. I am sorry.
Big hugs
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It brakes my heart to read this. Shame on her, here you are, in Iraq and I'm sure you are scared, lonely, home sick and she dose not care. I would leave her ***.
To quote Tom Arnolds character in the movie True Lies...
';What did you expect? She's a flesh and blood woman and you're never there.';
tell her the future will be affected if she spends too much and please be careful....she is bored....reassure her you love her as much as possible...
:)
i would like to first say.....thankyou ...........thankyou for serving our country. i am an ex-military dependant. my ex cheated on me all the time..............this is neiter here or there...........your situation seems diff. When a woman dresses up and does not act out the part from her heart as being your significant other...............she is up to something. it was hard for me to see my man go for so long. He too, went to saudi and i was raising our 2 dds basically alone. i was tempted to do the same as your wife, the lonliness and fear gets deep. this is NOT your fault, she made a choice in being your wife and your job is to serve and to protect. since , i do not know your ages it makes it hard to give a precise answer to your problem...........a woman under 30 usually does not know what she wants or what she has until it is too late. you seem sincer and are really worried about your relationship. if she is making bad decisions and leading you on.............than let her go. there are woman(such as me) that respect and love a man that is willing to go beyond measures to serve both land and family. If she cannot honor your feelings as a active partner.......soul mate than let her go. ........you deserve to recieve letters and support. i used to belong to the Hearts-apart-program ..........you are not alone in this.....many men and woman while away from the home front have lost what they thought they had. Love is out there.........good luck.....be safe ...........our country needs you........shelly
First off I want to thank you for your time spent serving our country.
Now, as for the wife, sometimes military wives get a bit crazy when the husband is gone to help numb the pain of their absence, but there are others that do it simply because they cannot be faithful and use the husbands absence as an excuse to do what they would do anyway.
Being that you are so far from her, you are going to worry more than usual, but then again, if you asked her nicely not to do this and she still does, I would say she doesn't respect you in the slightest, which is sad. My husband served in the Navy and was gone a lot and believe me, it would have been easy to do what your wife is doing, but I didn't out of love and respect for my husband.
My suggestion would be to seriously wait until you are back home and can sit and talk with her face to face and possibly even get some counceling. You could ask the ombudsman to help get you two through this while you are gone.
I really hope all works out with you. I hate seeing a man putting his life on the line for his country while his wife is out ';painting the town';. Good luck to you in the future. :)
hey bro im not a female but i feel your pain you have to get a separate account and only shoot her what is needed to live light lights water and food if you are out here fighting and in the suck and she thinks that she can get a free pass off you then you have to let her know that its not all good. if you don't check her she will feel that it is ok for her to do as she pleases. and if you don't have kids then there is no reason for her sister to be there cause right now you are serving as a cash cow and they balling at your expense. im sure you love your old lady so i wont say anything foul or tell you to dx her. but on the real don't let her make you out to be her b%%ch while you are out here defending the free world. don't kill her but show her 1000000 miles.away that you are still man of the house. just think about it as a soldier if you cut of the enemies supply they fail. so if you cut off her dough supply then she will either humble up or leave you and then that's when you see what your marriage is really worth. hate to hear this happening to you but you are a soldier ruck up you will be aight bro.
She is lonely too. How she is handling may not be the way you want her to, but there is not much you can do about it.
The bigger problem seems to be that she does not even contact you. I would be concerned that she is not in love with you. Why don't you talk to your Chaplain there, and have him contact your wife. Perhaps he can get clarity out of the situation. that is how my sister and her husband handled it when he was stationed in Spain.beauty cosmetics
Being a military wife, I've seen this stuff happen plenty of times. A wife should be somebody you are able to trust, not someone who lies to you about what they are doing, how much money they are spending, etc. As your wife, she should be doing things like writing you letters, and if she has only written you one in five months then there is something wrong. Honestly from what I've seen of military wives, the ones that go out and get all dressed up are usually the ones that cheat on their husbands. Don't get me wrong, there are some who don't, but most of the time if they are wearing low cut shirts getting all dressed up, and going out with another girl, that's usually the case. It's fine if she goes out once every couple of months just to loosen up, but she should be wearing jeans and a T-shirt, not a low cut shirt.
This is what you need to do. Tell your wife that you are in a very uncomfortable position. Tell her that it's hurting you a lot. Be upfront and honest with her. Give her an ultimatum. Tell her that if she keeps things going like this, you won't be able to trust her anymore. With out trust, you won't be able to be married to her. Also bring up the money issue. Tell her that you are concerned, as would any husband be. Be calm about everything and don't yell. Just make sure she knows how serious about it you are and then maybe she'll straighten up her act.
Being a wife to somebody in the military is hard at times, so you have to remember that. But what you need to remember most is that she should be supporting you as much as she possibly can. She shouldn't be doing things all the time that are making you upset and stressed out while you are in iraq. That's very self centered and she is not thinking in your best interest at all. In my opinion tell her to be honest and to stop doing what she's doing or you'll leave her. A wife should be somebody who cares what you have to say, not somebody who blows off everything you are saying like it's not a big deal when it really is to you.
Think about yourself and what you really deserve. Good luck with everything, don't let her walk all over you.Ladies PLEASE HELP MILTARY MAN NEEDS ADVICE?
Thank you for serving our country!
Put only what she needs to get by in the joint account. Put the rest in a savings account she doesn't have access to. Suggest she get a part-time job to pay for her extras.
You guys need to have a serious talk, but it probably wont do any good until you get home.
It makes me so mad to hear stuff like that women that have good men and do them wrong. Honistly you deserve better you should leave her if she cannot respect you. ALL kinds of ppl go to the bar i dont htink that is somewhere where you should go if you are married sorry
Well...she sure shows her TRUE colors. You have a right to get mad~!
She is out messing around on you. Its plain as day.
Pull the money from her. She is a dog to do this to you while you are serving our country.
I am proud of you honey. I am sorry.
Big hugs
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It brakes my heart to read this. Shame on her, here you are, in Iraq and I'm sure you are scared, lonely, home sick and she dose not care. I would leave her ***.
To quote Tom Arnolds character in the movie True Lies...
';What did you expect? She's a flesh and blood woman and you're never there.';
tell her the future will be affected if she spends too much and please be careful....she is bored....reassure her you love her as much as possible...
:)
i would like to first say.....thankyou ...........thankyou for serving our country. i am an ex-military dependant. my ex cheated on me all the time..............this is neiter here or there...........your situation seems diff. When a woman dresses up and does not act out the part from her heart as being your significant other...............she is up to something. it was hard for me to see my man go for so long. He too, went to saudi and i was raising our 2 dds basically alone. i was tempted to do the same as your wife, the lonliness and fear gets deep. this is NOT your fault, she made a choice in being your wife and your job is to serve and to protect. since , i do not know your ages it makes it hard to give a precise answer to your problem...........a woman under 30 usually does not know what she wants or what she has until it is too late. you seem sincer and are really worried about your relationship. if she is making bad decisions and leading you on.............than let her go. there are woman(such as me) that respect and love a man that is willing to go beyond measures to serve both land and family. If she cannot honor your feelings as a active partner.......soul mate than let her go. ........you deserve to recieve letters and support. i used to belong to the Hearts-apart-program ..........you are not alone in this.....many men and woman while away from the home front have lost what they thought they had. Love is out there.........good luck.....be safe ...........our country needs you........shelly
First off I want to thank you for your time spent serving our country.
Now, as for the wife, sometimes military wives get a bit crazy when the husband is gone to help numb the pain of their absence, but there are others that do it simply because they cannot be faithful and use the husbands absence as an excuse to do what they would do anyway.
Being that you are so far from her, you are going to worry more than usual, but then again, if you asked her nicely not to do this and she still does, I would say she doesn't respect you in the slightest, which is sad. My husband served in the Navy and was gone a lot and believe me, it would have been easy to do what your wife is doing, but I didn't out of love and respect for my husband.
My suggestion would be to seriously wait until you are back home and can sit and talk with her face to face and possibly even get some counceling. You could ask the ombudsman to help get you two through this while you are gone.
I really hope all works out with you. I hate seeing a man putting his life on the line for his country while his wife is out ';painting the town';. Good luck to you in the future. :)
hey bro im not a female but i feel your pain you have to get a separate account and only shoot her what is needed to live light lights water and food if you are out here fighting and in the suck and she thinks that she can get a free pass off you then you have to let her know that its not all good. if you don't check her she will feel that it is ok for her to do as she pleases. and if you don't have kids then there is no reason for her sister to be there cause right now you are serving as a cash cow and they balling at your expense. im sure you love your old lady so i wont say anything foul or tell you to dx her. but on the real don't let her make you out to be her b%%ch while you are out here defending the free world. don't kill her but show her 1000000 miles.away that you are still man of the house. just think about it as a soldier if you cut of the enemies supply they fail. so if you cut off her dough supply then she will either humble up or leave you and then that's when you see what your marriage is really worth. hate to hear this happening to you but you are a soldier ruck up you will be aight bro.
She is lonely too. How she is handling may not be the way you want her to, but there is not much you can do about it.
The bigger problem seems to be that she does not even contact you. I would be concerned that she is not in love with you. Why don't you talk to your Chaplain there, and have him contact your wife. Perhaps he can get clarity out of the situation. that is how my sister and her husband handled it when he was stationed in Spain.
Man and Woman friendship advice, why is she always pissed?
Hi, ive been good friends with this girl for a few years now, prob best friends. In the past she would get pissed over something trivial and would be upset for weeks/months. She would ignore every attempt to contact her, then would jsut show back up one day like nothing happened. Being a very forgiving perosn i live and let live and drop it.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago, after awhile of everything being cool, im back on ignore for doing something without her while she was away for weekend. Ive never had these kind of things happen with my male friends. Dont want this to sound bad, but is this typical behavior for women in friendships? It makes me feel like dirt, I want everything to be cool, but quite frankly im tired of being treated like trash she can bend over and pick out the can every few weeks.
How do I proceed form here, im very stressed right now and not sure how to proceed, i want to work things out but I cant get thru. Am i fighting a losing battle and just hurtn myself?Man and Woman friendship advice, why is she always pissed?
Maybe she wants to be more than friends and the only emotion she finds acceptable to express to you is anger, because she is unsure how you would react to her telling you that she has other feelings for you. Try asking her why she gets so angry with you......Man and Woman friendship advice, why is she always pissed?
ok as a girl %26amp;%26amp; havin a lot of guys for friends...infact more then girls...its not always like that...she probably kinda likes you more then a friend %26amp;%26amp; she thinks that as you goin out with other girls maybe if that is the case that she will lose you...so i guess just like talk to her bout it when shes ready to talk to you %26amp;%26amp; tell her how you feel...
not to be mean but she sounds a lil bitchy...most girls from what i see arent like this at all...hope that helps
to the last two questions-- yes and yes. a true friend wouldn't be so fickle. no all girls aren't like that. i certainly don't treat my guy friends that way. sure many women are emotional and moody, but we shouldn't use ';being a woman'; as an excuse for rude, selfish behavior. step back and think: why do you want to work things out and be her friend? you need to find some other girl friends...
Congratulations on your wedding. Too bad you seemed to have missed it.
waste of time. dont bother. she will **** you over in the end. happend to me. numerous of times.
Your happiness is what matters.... If you are no longer happy with the way this relationship is going then I would end it... Do what feels right to you.....
Are you sure she likes you as just a friend? I wouldnt be too sure. Find out. If its just friendship and nothing more, then here is something you should know about female pals: They can be catty like that.
Your female friend is immature. As she won't talk to you, don't even make the attempt. When she calls next time, just let her know that her behavior really stresses you out and that this type of friendship is not one that your mental health can tolerate. Then, hang up the phone and move on with your life.
She is used to getting her way and uses these ';ignore'; times to manipulate you in doing what she wants. Do you respect yourself enough to let this friendship go? I hope so.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago, after awhile of everything being cool, im back on ignore for doing something without her while she was away for weekend. Ive never had these kind of things happen with my male friends. Dont want this to sound bad, but is this typical behavior for women in friendships? It makes me feel like dirt, I want everything to be cool, but quite frankly im tired of being treated like trash she can bend over and pick out the can every few weeks.
How do I proceed form here, im very stressed right now and not sure how to proceed, i want to work things out but I cant get thru. Am i fighting a losing battle and just hurtn myself?Man and Woman friendship advice, why is she always pissed?
Maybe she wants to be more than friends and the only emotion she finds acceptable to express to you is anger, because she is unsure how you would react to her telling you that she has other feelings for you. Try asking her why she gets so angry with you......Man and Woman friendship advice, why is she always pissed?
ok as a girl %26amp;%26amp; havin a lot of guys for friends...infact more then girls...its not always like that...she probably kinda likes you more then a friend %26amp;%26amp; she thinks that as you goin out with other girls maybe if that is the case that she will lose you...so i guess just like talk to her bout it when shes ready to talk to you %26amp;%26amp; tell her how you feel...
not to be mean but she sounds a lil bitchy...most girls from what i see arent like this at all...hope that helps
to the last two questions-- yes and yes. a true friend wouldn't be so fickle. no all girls aren't like that. i certainly don't treat my guy friends that way. sure many women are emotional and moody, but we shouldn't use ';being a woman'; as an excuse for rude, selfish behavior. step back and think: why do you want to work things out and be her friend? you need to find some other girl friends...
Congratulations on your wedding. Too bad you seemed to have missed it.
waste of time. dont bother. she will **** you over in the end. happend to me. numerous of times.
Your happiness is what matters.... If you are no longer happy with the way this relationship is going then I would end it... Do what feels right to you.....
Are you sure she likes you as just a friend? I wouldnt be too sure. Find out. If its just friendship and nothing more, then here is something you should know about female pals: They can be catty like that.
Your female friend is immature. As she won't talk to you, don't even make the attempt. When she calls next time, just let her know that her behavior really stresses you out and that this type of friendship is not one that your mental health can tolerate. Then, hang up the phone and move on with your life.
She is used to getting her way and uses these ';ignore'; times to manipulate you in doing what she wants. Do you respect yourself enough to let this friendship go? I hope so.
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