Advice please on man at who likes me TOO much.?

I really need some helpful advice in a rather difficult situation.


I have an ongoing problem which is a man likes me too much. I am not interested, he is married %26amp; he is just basically obsessed with me its not normal %26amp; he harasses me. When I have tried to be friends it never works out because he acts like a teenager in a relationship falling out with me over nothing, being rude %26amp; going in long drawn out silences only to eventually beg to be friends again, say how sorry he is %26amp; how he's turned over a new leaf. This has gone on for years. I refuse to talk or be friends with him anymore as he just harasses me %26amp; stresses me out. The problem is although I egnore all his emails he has now sent one saying his mum is very ill (it is true %26amp; she is bad) but I feel he is using this to try to get me to respond to him. I do not want to seem heartless but on the other hand I need to stick to my guns %26amp; not let him think he has worn me down again. What do I do?Advice please on man at who likes me TOO much.?
You've already answered your own question there. You know this is just a ploy for you to give him some attention. Close your email account and open a new one, then you won't have to be subjected to this harassment.





oh I see....I didn't realise you worked together. You really need to sit down with your dad and tell him exactly what you've written here. If he won't listen; then go your own way in life and don't depend on this business of his; is it really worth it for a life time of being harassed and pestered by this man. If your dad really wants you to have the business he will let you have it anyway. Most men are protective of their daughters and if he realised the distress this man is causing you then I'm sure he would do everything in his power in order to see his little girl smile again!





Good Luck; I hope your father pulls through for you!Advice please on man at who likes me TOO much.?
1) Don't answer his emails. Ever.


2) Don't get sucked in with his sob stories. He should save them for his wife. If you do, he will exploit it


3) Avoid him where possible.


4) If he still hassles you, tell him straight out that you are not interested. He already has a female partner, his wife.


5) As a last resort, threaten to get a restraining order. That should do the trick.





I note in your amendment that he is a work colleague. In that case, only deal with him in a work capacity, and only if you have to. Any other capacity is out of bounds. It is important that you stick to your guns, as this guy is an emotional manipulator, and will exploit any weakness. Just fob off any sob stories by telling him to 'talk to his wife'. Dont respond to emails outside of a work capacity.





Good luck.
well tell him that you are very sorry about his mum and that you wish that you could help her...but you don't want to have any contact with him anymore and there's no way he can change that


try to appear very loving and caring when he talks about his mother, but act very harsh towards him


and if he continues harrassing you...either get another ';man'; friend that will shu him away...or tell him...that you'll call the police if he doesn't stop (that technique usually works best)
avoid him at all costs, of course he is just using this to get you to break down and talk to him again, sounds like a lonely and desperate and pathetic man, stay as far away as possible
ignore his emails and other forms of contact, don't let him get to you emotionally and let him reel you back into talking to him he is trying everything in the book to keep communication open with you, if he is harassing you then contact the authorities and let them deal with him so he can finally understand that you mean business when you say you want nothing else to do with him.....
Tell him to leave you alone or you will let his wife know what a jerk he is. Then see the police to get a protection order, if needed. Sometimes you have to be harsh.
Cut all ties with this man ,have nothing to do with him because you dont need someone like that hovering around in your life hunny! U may think its heartless but lets face it,ur stressed and he doesnt seem to care about that! GET RID!
Play Madden 07 with me? I have no idea what else you can do other than calling the Po Po on his perverted azz.





May the lord bless his mother though.
I would send one email back, express your sadness on his mother's illness and also tell him that you will not respond to any more emails, and change your email address. Or, just block his emails as SPAM.





Hope this helps!
It sounds like you have to do the deed.





Everyone hates to be the @$$hole. but there are times in our lives where there is no otherway to get through. So, I want you to write the meanest email you can express everything you feel about him and Launch it. Dont edit or soften it. tell him how the police will be notified and his wife will be notified as well.





I want you to be extra mean, it sounds like you are a pretty nice person by entertaining him thus far, so your mean wont be as mean as some, thats why I stress you need to be extra mean.





When all said and done Change your email. Start a new life with out him.
It depends on how you want to be. You could block him from sending an e-mail to you. ALso just not answer. It is not your responsibility to feel any certain way because his mother is sick. Do you know her? Then talk to her or go see her but if all you know is he has a mom and she's sick then stick to your guns. Good Luck
Tell him in the face that you dont like him and he shod stop those haressment before you tell his mum and wife.
you must move on life is to short get someone else . good luck silver fox.
This man falls into the category of an ';emotional manipulator'; - they display immature ';hot and cold'; behaviour as part of a continual power play. They key word in a person such as this's life is ';REACTION'; i.e. how can you manipulate someone who does not react - it doesn't work.





Do not answer the email. Do not have any contact again of any type. You have no obligation to tolerate harrassment from anyone. Also, be vigilant, and at the first sign of extreme behaviour inform the police and his wife.





Make a permanent picture of him in your mind being about 3 inches tall and only ever imagine him in this way. This will give you a permanent reminder of what he truly is - pathetic rather than threatening.





Peace and love.


Mac2martin
forget this loser, he is trying emotional blackmail on you. if you allow it to happen this time he will be forever using it as a way of speaking to you.





ditch this loser and find yourself someone who you actually want to be around.
He is using u..and seems to be very immature. Tell him straight, that u dont want any contact.


Good luck
You could try sending him an e-mail informing him


that you will be changing yours. You want this to stop.


You do not feel the same way. Wish his mother a speedy


recovery and that his WIFE must be a big support to him at


this time. OR - Why not tell him you will have to let his


wife handle this obsessive behaviour? It really is sad


for her - he is emotionally cheating on her. YOU be the


strong one and be cruel to be kind. Lots and lots of luck to


you. Minxy.
Maybe I am just mean, but why are you encouraging him? He is MARRIED - what does his wife make of you?. He obviously has some kind of personality disorder. Why do you want to be friends with a pathetic clingy and manipulative person? What's in it for you? Do you like the attention? If you do, I'm sure you can find another less creepy fan elsewhere, and build a more equal relationship with them. You are toying with this sad little man by continuing contact. Cut him out.
You're trying to be too nice while delivering a death sentence..............can't be done I'm afraid.





You need to be very firm about this.......tell him straight that he's ruined any chance of you both being friends...................come on honey, you %26amp; I both know, it isn't friendship he wants......it may be time to let go altogether.
Just tell him straight, that you do not want any contact with him, some people just don't get the message, tell him you symphathise about his mum but thats it.
you poor girl, this must be horrible for you, the best thing to do is to tell your dad that you need a serious word with him, tell him how tormented he is making you feel, and that you cant go on with this man hounding you. if your father is a good man, he will have a word with this man and tell him to leave you alone or lose his job.
keep a diary of everything he says or does then go to the police
This sounds a very awkward %26amp; even potentially a dangerous situation dear lady ! Even if his mother is really ill ? do you know her ? He has his wife to care for her surely ? Sounds like just another ploy to entrap you into getting you closer %26amp; deeper into his clutches ? My advice is never have any communication with this guy ! Block his mail, do not open it ! Stay well clear of him ! This harrassment of you is unwarranted %26amp; must be scary for you ? If all fails ? Take your problem to someone who can do something constructive ? The police !