Need some man advice..?

if the person you were with wasn't sure about his feelings for you, but while at the same time really cared about you and was admittedly scared of losing you, what would you do?





( and this all being said after all the cats had been let out of the bag and so on... by this i mean things which are ultimately forgivable )





long story short, he has done alot of mean **** and in my understanding it all happened because he's selfish, VERY selfish, and also because his feelings had obviously faded somewhat significantly or he wouldn't had done what he'd done. BUT... im not stupid, and i know he is a very confused person.





from the age of four he had been part of a christian church ( which he actually referse to as a cult ). he left this '; church '; when he was twenty; he knows that its left some scars on him but besides all of this he is a wonderful person. but i just got tired of being hurt and feeling used so i finally broke it off.





we have broken up many times before, each time resulting in more of a mess, but this last time there was no bullshit. i told him it had to end if he wasn't sure how he felt about me and we both agreed. it was really tough on both of us.





i have been in a few relationships and i thought i knew what real love was before, but this is the first time i have ever truely fallen, and i know this because my feelings have stayed unconditional throughout all the crap thats happended with us. in the end i see past all of it, and i know where my heart is. but with him i honestly can't say..





i need advice people? do i try to convince him to give it another chance when i know he is not sure about me? can someones selfishness be so clouding that its made it almost impossible to fall completely inlove?





he IS the most critical person on the planet! but because of me he is really honestly trying to change things around... wheather thats for me in the end or not.





but i miss him so much. i dont know what to do becuase he means so much to me and everyday i miss him more and more and its becoming unbarable.





i always think that atleats if i try i'll gane something to lose. but im worried that i will lose more then i have to gane if i push him...





thank you.Need some man advice..?
Hi Stand, your feelings towards him were very complicated,


and for this, he's all around inside your head 24/7.


You'll never come out of this, cuz simply, just look through your


own letter again and you knew what I mean.





You're kinda already let him to ruled and control over you.


Though you might not realize it cuz you did this subconsciously.


This poison that stays in your head will never be wash away,


if you never let a '' doctor '' to wash it for you thoroughly.





Meaning, you need to calm down, and don't tell that you knew things about love too much, no one will be able to fully grasp for


everything, when '' LOVE '' is involved.


When love is mention, people either make it or break it. Period.


So, find a day to calm down your nerves and see for yourself,


what you really like about him, '' scrutinized '' how he's treated you.


And if I guess right, about his commitment to you,


then, give some space for him as for yourself to make sure this one last time, and tell yourself that if things can work, then well , is good,


but if not, no point hanging around either.





And the last resort will be, if he can't commit to you,


you got no choice but to look for someone else.