Need some man advice..?

if the person you were with wasn't sure about his feelings for you, but while at the same time really cared about you and was admittedly scared of losing you, what would you do?





( and this all being said after all the cats had been let out of the bag and so on... by this i mean things which are ultimately forgivable )





long story short, he has done alot of mean **** and in my understanding it all happened because he's selfish, VERY selfish, and also because his feelings had obviously faded somewhat significantly or he wouldn't had done what he'd done. BUT... im not stupid, and i know he is a very confused person.





from the age of four he had been part of a christian church ( which he actually referse to as a cult ). he left this '; church '; when he was twenty; he knows that its left some scars on him but besides all of this he is a wonderful person. but i just got tired of being hurt and feeling used so i finally broke it off.





we have broken up many times before, each time resulting in more of a mess, but this last time there was no bullshit. i told him it had to end if he wasn't sure how he felt about me and we both agreed. it was really tough on both of us.





i have been in a few relationships and i thought i knew what real love was before, but this is the first time i have ever truely fallen, and i know this because my feelings have stayed unconditional throughout all the crap thats happended with us. in the end i see past all of it, and i know where my heart is. but with him i honestly can't say..





i need advice people? do i try to convince him to give it another chance when i know he is not sure about me? can someones selfishness be so clouding that its made it almost impossible to fall completely inlove?





he IS the most critical person on the planet! but because of me he is really honestly trying to change things around... wheather thats for me in the end or not.





but i miss him so much. i dont know what to do becuase he means so much to me and everyday i miss him more and more and its becoming unbarable.





i always think that atleats if i try i'll gane something to lose. but im worried that i will lose more then i have to gane if i push him...





thank you.Need some man advice..?
Apparently he doesn't feel the same way about you. Or he'd have never let you go. There's a whole world full of people waiting to be loved out there. Why settle for something less than you deserve ?





Do you want to be taken for granted for the rest of your life ? Move forward, honey. That's the only way to go.Need some man advice..?
REAL love - bombards a person like a flood. A person who is really in love does not have to wonder if it's real --- they automatically know without a doubt.





When the love is NOT real - - and a person tries to force love -- they get confused and try to make themselves feel that love that just isn't happening.





It takes 2 people in a relationship who wants the same thing. One person can't make it work. Sometimes one of the persons loves the other person so much that they just can't understand why the other person does not feel they same ... they just want that love that badly.





When a person has to wonder if a person really loves them - and - they have that knawing feeling in their gut that it's just not right ... then it's probably true ... the feeling is not there.





If this fellow really loves you -- he will come back to you -- nothing could keep him away. If his feelings are not real - he will keep you confused and hurting. It will depend on how long you want to put up with it -- and when you decide to find someone who makes you feel really loved because they really DO love you.
ur feelings for him r clearly true... however, u need to let this guy figure himself out, and by that i mean ';nothings written in stone';... he has to prove to himself that he's changed and made the full transition from selfish to considerate... im not a fan of time, but a little bit of it in ur case ';can'; work wonders